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Finding Balance

Saturday, September 17, 2011

I know I keep saying this and after the past couple of weeks, I realize I have really got to find some balance in my life. I always seem to be trying to do more than is humanly possible in any given day and I have to realize there is only so much I can take on.
I have been asking DH to help me more and he has taken on doing a number of things that are manageable for him to help me. Being a Virgo, I tend to be too critical so I am biting my tongue and hope I can just relax and let him do these things.
Now, I just have to learn to say NO to others when they want me to take on things. Some things are constant and I can't delegate, but others are and I have to figure out which ones are.
I think if I can get this done, then I can release some of the stress and I will be able to lose weight. I believe that until I do this, I will continue to struggle with my weight. It has taken me 6 mo to lose 10 lbs and I exercise faithfully and watch what I eat but that doesn't seem to be enough.
Does anyone else find they are having these same issues????
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  • MOMMA_BEAR_69
    I am a Virgo also and I totally understand exactly what you are saying. Good luck to you on learning to say no and trying not to think everything has to be perfect. I continue to look for balance every day.
    Blessings and hugs,
    Helen
    3452 days ago
  • MOMMA_LITTLE
    Hey, balance is something we ALWAYS need to strive for! It's so easy to get out of whack in so many ways! I just realized, by the way, that I lost the subscription to your blog! *hugs* Lori
    3457 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8667808
    Hi Pat. This happens to too many women, who are expected to care for everyone else before themselves, but if you burn out, you'll never meet their expectations anyway. I know it's hard to let things go, but keep practicing and notice when it's working out well, stick it in your back pocket and use it again later :).
    I bet there are times when you're putting more pressure on yourself than others are, and I think that's a shout out, along with the stubborn weight, that you need some Major Relaxation. Good for you for realizing you need some breaks!
    3457 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5123585
    Pat-I am struggling for balance right now also. It is so hard to find the right balance of things, but it is definitely something we need to do. I have to agree that stress plays a big role in weight loss (or rather weight gain)! And then when you add in not getting enough sleep, it just seems like an uphill battle. But I know it is a battle that you will win!! I wish you well, my friend. Kim


    3458 days ago
  • FITFABME2
    My consultation with the fitness expert today was very enlightening. Of course much of what he said is available here - but he was able to also hone in on my specific issues. One of them is that I am working out too much and not as efficiently as I could be.

    As far as what you are saying, though, he was very clear about the importance of rest and rebuilding for the body to lose weight and tone. He said the amount of time spent recovering is just as critical as the time spent in the gym - hormonally. That the body has to signal to lose weight and it only does this when it is well rested...so if you are stressed out too much cortisol can cause trouble. I know I've struggled with this. My stress relief was helped with yoga - hot yoga specifically, but I'm sure yoga yoga would do the trick too. Mind, body, spirit - all need to be in balance.

    Best wishes in reaching your balance. It can be done!

    emoticon
    3458 days ago
  • FITFABME2
    My consultation with the fitness expert today was very enlightening. Of course much of what he said is available here - but he was able to also hone in on my specific issues. One of them is that I am working out too much and not as efficiently as I could be.

    As far as what you are saying, though, he was very clear about the importance of rest and rebuilding for the body to lose weight and tone. He said the amount of time spent recovering is just as critical as the time spent in the gym - hormonally. That the body has to signal to lose weight and it only does this when it is well rested...so if you are stressed out too much cortisol can cause trouble. I know I've struggled with this. My stress relief was helped with yoga - hot yoga specifically, but I'm sure yoga yoga would do the trick too. Mind, body, spirit - all need to be in balance.

    Best wishes in reaching your balance. It can be done!

    emoticon
    3458 days ago
  • FITFABME2
    My consultation with the fitness expert today was very enlightening. Of course much of what he said is available here - but he was able to also hone in on my specific issues. One of them is that I am working out too much and not as efficiently as I could be.

    As far as what you are saying, though, he was very clear about the importance of rest and rebuilding for the body to lose weight and tone. He said the amount of time spent recovering is just as critical as the time spent in the gym - hormonally. That the body has to signal to lose weight and it only does this when it is well rested...so if you are stressed out too much cortisol can cause trouble. I know I've struggled with this. My stress relief was helped with yoga - hot yoga specifically, but I'm sure yoga yoga would do the trick too. Mind, body, spirit - all need to be in balance.

    Best wishes in reaching your balance. It can be done!

    emoticon
    3458 days ago
  • OURELEE1
    I'm also a Virgo. I also need to say No and Not be so critical. Sometimes it is just easier for me to do it. Then I get mad that no one helps me. If you find some balance send it to me. I can use help.
    3458 days ago
  • SLENDERELLA61
    Absolutely. I had to tackle my stress and simplify my life, including delegating tasks, before I could be successful with exercise streaks and my weight management.

    I know it isn't easy, but it is absolutely worth it. Do the best you can each day. Never giving up is the number one key as far as I'm concerned.

    It was hard for me to be truly honest with myself about how much and what I was eating. That probably is key number two in my opinion.

    Best wishes for carving out some time for yourself. I find that 5 minute "close your eyes and relax" breaks can be very meaningful in demanding days.
    3458 days ago
  • DOODIE59
    Hi Pat
    I'm glad you're thinking about balance.

    On a separate but related subject, I think we spoke long ago about how my father in law used to always say no to his kids, take time to think on it, and then turn his response into a yes if he felt it was warranted. ... Maybe you can say to a few of the people/groups who approach you some memorized line like: Oh, thank you for your interest, but I'm pretty much tapped out right now; I will think about it for a future date ... That way you won't freeze up when approached or say Yes before you can think of your perfectly good reasons to say No:) They'll always be there if you DO decide you need to be doing more:)

    Take it easy, dahling:)
    Deirdre
    3458 days ago
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