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Dealing with Adversity

Thursday, October 27, 2011

I think I will be glad to see this year end and hopefully next year will start out a lot better.
I can't remember when so much bad things have hit our family in one year and I am sure others are dealing with a lot too, seems if it wasn't for bad news, we would not have any anymore.
I shouldn't feel that way, our son and grandson were laid off about 3 weeks ago but both were hired by a competitor a week later so that was good. They aren't exactly happy, but at least they have a job!
DH got the dreaded diagnosis of prostrate cancer from his urologist today. We have been praying that the elevated PSA would not result in cancer but since it has, we are going to have to deal with this headon. The dr says it is stage 1 which is good news. He was very encouraging but we won't know exactly what we are dealing with until they do the bone and body scans next Wed and then we will get those results the following week and from that he will suggest a plan of action. He has suggested a book which I plan to see if our local library has. I would like to be better informed before our next meeting. I wasn't exactly blindsided, but I guess I was hiding my head in the sand thinking positive that it would not be cancer so I really wasn't ready for the diagnosis!
I know we can get thru this. I have had to deal with a lot more before and DH is strong and a fighter so I know he can too. He has had to deal with so many health issues in the past 6 years so I am confident he can face this too.
Prayers are appreciated-we are strong, but the man upstairs is stronger!
Thanks everyone.
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    Stage 1 anything is very manageable, right? And isn't it the case that the male population ends up with prostrate cancer almost as a Rite of Passage at some point in their lives? It certainly needn't be viewed as a death sentence by any means - it is great that he is dealing with it well and it sounds as if he has excellent care.

    Enjoy life and your time with him all the more and perhaps even consider this news a blessing as it will encourage you to focus on living the most everyday al the more...yes!?

    3403 days ago
    You and your husband will be in my prayers. My husband's uncle has prostate cancer. Our son was born on his birthday and named the same first name. I didn't know him when my son was born.

    I personally believe Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

    Sometimes I have to write that on a piece of paper and carry it with me and pull it out and read it. I don't understand the Whys of things that happen, but I do believe God is Sovereign over all things. My purpose here on this Earth is to know and to love God with all of my being. I can say that I do. It is hard to trust when the rug is pulled out from under us, but His love for us is unconditional.
    3407 days ago
    Hugs and prayers, Pat. I agree about the year, and actually October has been my worst month.
    Thank you for the words: "Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference"

    That is so true.
    I appreciate your friendship,
    you are in my prayers.
    3409 days ago
    Prayers are with you! emoticon
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    3409 days ago
    Pat, My prayers are with you and your DH. Yes, for sure, God is stronger than anything (everything) else. In my own life, I'm finding comfort from 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, "But he (G0d) said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for y0u, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' (Paul goes on...) Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties, For when I am weak then I am strong."

    I'm glad you folks are actively seeking information about the cancer, and not just waiting for the next shoe to fall. Stage 1, caught early, all sounds very promising. As I said, I'll be keeping y'all in prayer.

    3409 days ago
  • 60SIXTY
    Bless you and your husband.

    Spark People's "Health A to Z" has a lot of good info.
    That is their link on prostate cancer. It is an excellent overview.
    the last page of the info has good links to other websites.

    You will probably be overwhelmed with booklets from American Cancer Society. It is helpful to educate yourselves so that you will be better prepared to make decisions.
    3410 days ago
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    I'm so sorry to hear this. Like you said, it's good that they caught it early. You and your hubby will be in my thoughts. emoticon
    3410 days ago
    Hi, Pat,
    Hubby and I went through this together two years ago. They caught the elevated PSA the day after we got married (literally), so we started our married life with doctors' appointments, prostate biopsies (not fun!) and the decision of whether to have surgery, chemo, radiation, seed implant radiation or 'just wait and see.' No way in h-ll were we just going to wait it out, so we read up on our choices and decided that FOR HIM, seed implant was the way to go.

    His PSA is now 0.5, holding steady for the past year. I know it's scary, especially with other health problems, but they've made so many advances in the last few years. Caught early, it's one of the most survivable cancers.

    If the library doesn't have the book you're looking for, they should be able to inter-library-loan it from another library. Ask; they'll know how to do that.

    Of course our prayers are with you all as you go through the tests and the waiting. Know that your faith in God and your love for one another will see you through this.
    3410 days ago
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    Pat, I'm so sorry to hear about the prostate cancer, but sounds like you have a perspective that will get you and dh through it. I do believe you're both fighters. Sounds like it runs in the family.
    You have my prayers, thoughts and well wishings.
    3410 days ago
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    Hi Pat
    Surround yourself with your support system -- family and friends -- and let them help when they offer. Dole out specific chores -- people want to help and don't know what to do.

    Hugs and prayers for you both,

    3410 days ago
    So sorry! I'll be praying for you and DH and the whole family. HUGS!
    3410 days ago
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