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Saturday, May 11, 2013

A woman, renewing her driver's licence ,
was asked by the woman at Registry to state her occupation.
She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

'What I mean is, ' explained the woman at Registry,
'do you have a job or are you just a ...?'

'Of course I have a job,' snapped the woman.
'I'm a Mum.'

'We don't list 'Mum' as an occupation, 'housewife' covers it,'
Said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
'Official Interrogator' or 'City Registrar.'

'What is your occupation?' she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know.
The words simply popped out.
'I'm a Research Associate in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations.'

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in mid-air and
looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.
Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written,
in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

'Might I ask,' said the clerk with new interest,
'just what you do in your field?'

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice,
I heard myself reply,
'I have a continuing program of research,
(what mother doesn't)
In the laboratory and in the field,
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
and already have four credits (all daughters).
Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities,
(any mother care to disagree?)
and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it).
But the job is more challenging than most run-of- the -mill careers
and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.'

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she
completed the form, stood up and personally ushered me to the door

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career,
I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model,
(a 6 month old baby) in the child development program,
testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!
And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished
and indispensable to mankind than 'just another Mum.' Motherhood!

What a glorious career!
Especially when there's a title on the door.

Does this make grandmothers
'Senior Research associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations'
And great grandmothers
'Executive Senior Research Associates?
I think so!
I also think it makes Aunts.
Associate Research Assistants.'

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    Love this Pat!
    2852 days ago
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    This reminds me of when I did advocacy work in the 90's for school programs for "Working Moms" - what Mom isn't working, even without a paid job!?
    2854 days ago
  • DOODIE59
    I think stay-at-home mothers don't get much respect. The few who stay home can feel quite isolated from their communities. Thank you for reminding us that we all have value -- even those who don't have paying jobs.
    Take care
    2855 days ago
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    2855 days ago
    2856 days ago
    This was refreshing! Thanks for sharing. HUGS!
    2856 days ago
    Love this very much...........makes it sound like it is IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    2856 days ago
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    2856 days ago
    I love this! And yeah, I worked outside of home part of my life, but when I was 'just' a stay-at-home Mom, I ran into more than one of 'those' looks. emoticon
    2856 days ago
    Quite so, and not so condescending just to cleaning as most people take domestic engineer to be. I actually got my bachelor's in Industrial Technology, as every job I'd ever had entailed it in some form. And being a Mom, I thought how nice to get paid for what we do at home anyway. The job is basically a company "MOM". However, I have never gotten hired to work and get paid at that level once I got my degree. Yet, I did have five children, so it benefited me well LOL

    If more people would take Proverbs 31 to heart, perhaps we would gain more of the respect you so aptly entitled! You shall be dubbed Lady of Child Development and Human Relations! Associate though, oh my. I should think in this you are the lead, being the only Mum in the house? High Supervisor of Child Development and Human Relations...

    2856 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13873616
    LOVE THIS! I really dislike the immediate look of others when they say "oh your a stay at home mom". I insert my the names of my children and reply that I work for J ,W and Company. The company comes from the fact that I care for nieces and nephews as well. I love the Associate Research Assistants for us Aunts! emoticon emoticon
    2856 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/11/2013 8:49:06 PM
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