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when you label a person

Friday, September 16, 2016

A few weeks ago I posted a blog while I was still in shock after the news that my husband of 35 years didn't love me anymore and was divorcing me. The support I got from the SparkPeople community was uplifting and so appreciated. Thanks to all of you for your caring words.

I have been a preschool teacher for over 30 years. I have seen first hand what happens when a child is "labeled" with a suspected diagnosis or an actual medical diagnosis. Ever been labelled? Ever labelled someone yourself? Everyone’s done both, sometimes it’s benign, sometimes it’s a good thing and sometimes it’s a bad thing. It starts from an early age and continues through life – he’s a jock, he’s conscientious, she’s a troublemaker. Assigning labels to things seems to be part of how our brain makes sense of the world. But what happens to a person when you give them a particular label?

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In my lifetime I have been labelled as clinically depressed. Yes a medical diagnosis but for many years I let it define me.While I sought out counseling and tried different medications (as well as many lifestyle changes) he became silently resentful because I was so "self absorbed". Recently it was suggested by a medical professional that I could be asexual. As I struggled to find a reason /solution for problems occurring in my marriage these labels became an issue for my soon to be ex husband. He couldn't get past them....they would forever define me to him.

I realize that it is his problem.....I was a good wife and mother for 35 years. I will move on and continue to grow and heal and prosper.

I will however be more aware of how labels affect the person who has been labelled and those who react to those labels.

Thanks again SparkPeople for a safe place to vent and a great place to find support and wisdom as I start a new journey.
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  • no profile photo CD2704340
    You've got a great attitude!
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    1633 days ago
  • IMUSTLOSEIT1
    That what the SP friends are all about, we want to help support you. Right now stay focus on YOU, take care.
    1633 days ago
  • SWCHKLT
    Stay focused and positive.You know you were a good mom and wife that's all that counts
    1633 days ago
  • 50YEARSAWIFE
    I am so sorry that this happened to you. I am also glad that Spark has been a place of solace for you. Wishing you all the best as you move forward.
    1633 days ago
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