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Do you have an "All or Nothing Attitude"?

Sunday, August 11, 2019

This is my PREMIUM COACHING PROGRAM message for today from Coach Nicole.

"Overcoming Your "All-or-Nothing" Attitude

Do you ever "blow your diet," only to think that you might as well keep on eating and start over tomorrow (or next week, or next month)? Is it hard to get yourself to exercise because you think it takes too much time and effort to burn such a small number of calories? What about the days when you're super busy and can't fit in your normal routine--do you convince yourself that it's better to do nothing than to do 10 minutes of something? If so, then you're still struggling with the "all-or-nothing" attitude, which has no place in a healthy lifestyle.

Considering the scenarios above, it's easy to see how all-or-nothing thinking can sabotage your chances for weight-loss success. Yet, in the moment, we often rationalize our choices to give up, put off, or give in. This is usually due to a little bit of perfectionism. We want to do it perfectly, so when things don't go right, we throw in the towel rather than accepting anything less than what's ideal. But the fact is that perfectionism (and a desire for instant gratification) are likely some of the problems that helped you become overweight in the first place. Keeping those attitudes won't help you in the grand scheme of losing weight. You have to learn how to change "all or nothing" into "something (anything!)."

No one gets it right all the time; you're not going to achieve success without paying your dues. Expecting things to be different for you is a one-way ticket to frustration, loss of motivation, and failure.

So how do you develop a winning attitude? You create success by doing the best you can with the individual decision or task that's right in front of you at this moment. You'll get where you want to go as long as you take more steps in the right direction than you do in the wrong direction. And when you catch yourself rationalizing that a few extra minutes on the couch is a better choice than a few minutes of exercise--stop. Take note. And realize that your mind isn't being rational. Make the best choice with what time and resources you have--and you'll keep moving in the right direction."

I sometimes recognize this mentality of all or nothing in various areas in my life. I am working hard to overcome this but it seems to sometimes find it's way back into my thinking, especially when I am tired or stressed or not reaching my goals quickly enough.

Solution for me: change my thinking!

Make good choices--with each decision I am faced with, I need only to make one good choice. It's that easy. Choose the best in this moment!

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    We talked about this very topic in our WW meeting a week or two ago. The leaders comment is that if you slip up on any other thing in your life, you give yourself a break and you don't do it any more. For example, if you accidentally run a stop sign while you are driving, you don't say to yourself, "well, I blew it so I might as well not follow the rules of the road anymore" and continue to run stop signs for the rest of the day. Sure, it would be great to say well, I had that pizza and now I'm done but even if you have an "off the charts" day of eating, tomorrow is another day. It's easier to recover from one off plan meal or one off plan day. Forgive yourself and move on. I have found that has worked best for me. Thanks for the reminder! emoticon
    521 days ago
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    I have had this sort of attitude FOREVER. Thanks for sharing this, so helpful!
    521 days ago
    Wonderful lesson
    528 days ago
    emoticon I am definitely guilty of this. I have plateaued for the last 2 months about and I just can't get motivated to get started again. I try, but then I overeat and so my good exercise does no good. The good part is that I am not gaining weight, but I am not losing either. I have not lost anything during this BL challenge. I have stayed the same the entire time. I am not sure what it will take to get me motivated to start again.
    529 days ago
    Need to be encouraged regularly, so thanks for your post.
    529 days ago
    Love your positive attitude
    529 days ago
    Great post, I needed to see something like this today. Mindset is probably my biggest hurdle.
    529 days ago
    Love this blog - very positive as you always are - both blogging and on your feed.
    My favourite of all your comments here is -

    'Choose the best in this moment!'

    So simple and not impossible to develop as a habit I can stick to.
    Many thanks for sharing the SP advice - and your thoughts emoticon
    529 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/11/2019 10:50:16 AM
    Thanks for the encouragement today.
    529 days ago
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    Great blog
    529 days ago
    This is a good lesson to learn, and keep learning day after day.
    529 days ago
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