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Sunshine mixed with Hurricane--again!

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Thursday, July 02, 2020

Very hot day here ---- It is supposed to go up to 32C ---
I shall try to cut the septic bed this morning---


I had to add the above , as Himself is a tad grouchy!
He was supposed to go for blood work, but his mood was not the best, so I decided that he didn't deserve the Uber person to drive him there---and you know who that Uber person is----"ME"---
Lord love a Duck ! --Will this man ever settle down and enjoy being retired?---
My suggestion that he stay home till he learned how to be nice, went over like a lead balloon.
We are a month into this "retirement thing", and it is not going well--
If I could just squelch my mouth!

Oh well, there is always another day!
I have walked Tess, taken the garbage up to the boat launch, vacuumed--- put the washing in, and hopefully can get a bit of grass done.

Perhaps the grouchy man is because of the Pandemic--- who knows?
So, we do have a bit of Hurricane , mixed with the hot sunshine--
Lord love a Duck! I suppose every day can't be smooth---
I never remember my Mom going thru this when my Dad retired.


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  • HARRIETT14
    Funny that you have written this blog. I came across something that I hope you will enjoy.

    The trouble with too many women is they get all excited about nothing----- Then they go ahead and marry him.

    Good, right?
    36 days ago
  • GWYNLEE2
    hot here too
    38 days ago
  • LAURALLANCE
    It sounds like you are doing -- everything! Good for you refusing to be the Uber when it's not appreciated. Hang in there. It will get better as he adjusts to retirement.
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    40 days ago
  • FIT2BETHIN
    As a retired nurse, I can kind of relate to the difficulty in retiring. I spent my whole life taking care of people in a high stress environment. I had to stay informed of everything medical by belonging to medical organizations, reading and publishing medical journals, educating patients about their healthcare, etc. being a nurse was a large part of my identity for the majority of my life. And then suddenly, it stopped. The day I turned in my access keys and ID badge, I no longer received communication from my team, my patients, and was unable to update myself on my patients’s progress bc I didn’t have access to their medical records. Some of these people I’ve known for twenty plus years! I shared their joy and their angst. And suddenly it was over.

    That was the hard part for me. I’ve been retired for a year now, and it’s much better. It takes time to figure out what your self worth is once retired. I stayed busy in the early months with house reno projects. And then picked a new full time job: getting Myself fit and healthy! I am my focus now, and I love it!

    Himself will figure it out. I’m sure the adjustment is even more difficult for doctors. Bless you for being there for him...I imagine it is difficult for you both. emoticon emoticon
    40 days ago
  • PREMAMEHROTRA
    I must say that your blogs bring out reactions from a number of Sparkers and one thing this does for me - as I hope it does for you - is to make me feel that I am not alone in my emotions about the pandemic, about retirement and about the desire to stay relevant with a daily purpose in mind.
    By the way, my Himself is retired totally and I am not!!!

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    40 days ago
  • 4EVERDIETER
    It is an adjustment....for both of you!
    40 days ago
  • JERICHO1991
    Perhaps wives are more aware of the hurricane than daughters?
    40 days ago
  • GETULLY
    I had a friend that said once her husband retired she never felt more barefoot and pregnant! I hope he is feeling better.
    40 days ago
  • JWINKSLLC
    He's really sad and he's taking it out on you. God bless.

    40 days ago
  • FLPALM
    Hopefully, Himself will "relax" a bit during this retirement phase. Good Luck!

    40 days ago
  • MUVFASTA
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    40 days ago
  • NOLAHORSERIDER
    Retirement for men is hard to transition to. He will be okay in time. Just have to be patient.

    I am glad you stood up to Mr. Grouch. LOL All things will work out fine. Every day is a challenge it seems.

    SparkHugs,

    Nol
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    40 days ago
  • ADORENE
    Thanks for the belly laugh. Sorry not laughing at you but sometimes laughter is the best medicine. Hope himself gets out of the grouchiness soon.
    40 days ago
  • RAERAERAE62
    Retirement takes a while to adjust to; for many a great deal of their identity and self-worth is tied to their professional self. I hope you can find some away from home happy things to get a break and give him space. Hugs.
    40 days ago
  • DOTTYDO
    He didnt really want to retire, so hes not handling this well. Try to be patient, even if you have to go to the dock. Enjoy this time with each other.
    41 days ago
  • no profile photo RACHNACH
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    41 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    I DO remember my Mum going through exactly that when my Dad retired. HE retired . . . and she of course did not: but kept right on with the laundry and the cooking and the cleaning and . . . . tolerating the grumpies.

    Yikes!! When our kids were tiny and misbehaved, I'd seat them on the back stairs and tell them that they were welcome to rejoin us whenever they were prepared to be pleasant. Typically I'd hear a small voice within about two minutes, "I am prepared to be pleasant now!!"

    We still laugh about it . . .
    41 days ago
  • JLAMING263
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    41 days ago
  • MARILYNS481
    Most men have a hard time transitioning to being 'home' all the time - 5 years before my sweet hubby was going to retire I started encouraging him in things he like to do thinking that when he retired he would just continue with the fun things - and it worked - but he still has his grouchy times - as I do. Part of life I guess
    41 days ago
  • JUNETTA2002
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    41 days ago
  • TRIMNUP
    This pandemic wasn't in Himself's retirement plan, for sure. There are restrictions he wasn't expecting. emoticon
    He's also grieving a sense of loss. Loss of, loss of a daily schedule that was comfortable, loss of purpose, loss of patients, loss of staff. I hope he can make the adjustment/transition with grace.
    I have a sign on my refrigerator that says, " If you are grouchy, irritable or just plain mean, there will be a $10 fee for putting up with you." It is to remind me to behave myself. emoticon
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    41 days ago
  • DONNALEE-53
    emoticon I have a grouch, too. emoticon
    41 days ago
  • COOKWITHME65
    It must be hard for him. He has worked for so many yrs and felt he was doing good helping the community. Now what is his "job". He is already a husband, dad and grandfather. Does he miss his coworkers. Friends from town. Just a thought. (Hugs)
    41 days ago
  • SNOOPYLINKOS
    Men do make us crazy! emoticon
    41 days ago
  • no profile photo GHILL5674
    You’re such a hard worker and you sure wear many hats😍. Why do you take the trash to the boat launch?🤔
    41 days ago
  • no profile photo MLR_00
    Stay safe, stay healthy
    41 days ago
  • MANGO1960
    Change is difficult for many people. We eventually adjust. Pandemics are new for many people too so he got a double whammy! emoticon
    41 days ago
  • AZMOMXTWO
    he is just bored so to speak what do I know I still have to work and I want to stay home

    be safe and kind to each other
    41 days ago
  • THEBENTS
    My husband and I LOVE retirement but we didn’t start during a serious pandemic! We travelled, which is off the table these days. We appreciate the relaxed pace now but do miss our children and grandchildren who are not so near as Most of yours. We will get through this! Xoxo
    41 days ago
  • no profile photo BRENDAJACKSON2
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    41 days ago
  • no profile photo BRENDAJACKSON2
    I think he’s having a problem with being needed by all his patients to not being needed except for things he doesn’t seem to want to do. And because of his age you are restricted in what you can ask him to do. Good luck!!
    41 days ago
  • UPTOIT59
    I am sure the pandemic is not something you both dreamed about when you thought of retirement! It would have been an adjustment anyway and add isolation to the mix - ugh! The perfect cocktail of time and nothing to do! I am sorry for you guys but you will get through this! xo emoticon
    41 days ago
  • RACHAEL2020
    For the first couple of months of retirement, I had to find somewhere to go everyday. That ranged from going to the gym in the morning, and library in the afternoon. I still struggle with finding things to do during the day so oftentimes, I'll go over to my parents house. With the pandemic, they like the fact of me coming over to cook dinners. emoticon Basically, my summary of retirement is to take one step at a time. Happy Independence Day! emoticon
    41 days ago
  • CSEGUIN2
    He is probably dealing with several different emotions between being retired and being more or less isolated due to covid. He just needs to figure out his new purpose. Have a great day and try to stay cool and happy!
    41 days ago
  • RETIREDGMA
    I found retirement very scary
    41 days ago
  • CHERYLHURT
    My husband and I ADORE being retired!
    41 days ago
  • RHOOK20047
    Your mom may have not gone through it with your dad, depending on what walk of like your dad was in. Himself was used to for years seeing many people everyday. I can somewhat relate. I worked 40 years in I/T and when I returned it was like a huge void was created. I last 4 months, and then I saw a work from home part time job, and life is idyllic for me now. I am using my brain daily, talking with others and then have peace of working at home. Remember that he had been doing the same thing for many years and it takes a long time to change your lifestyle. I don't know if I will ever give this job up, maybe when my brain goes out completely.
    41 days ago
  • SMORSEBVR
    Sorry he is so grouchy
    41 days ago
  • MARTHA324
    Getting used to retirement can be difficult. Does Himself walk with you? Maybe a walk would calm the storm?

    Have a good day and stay safe.
    41 days ago
  • MSLZZY
    No matter how well you plan, retirement is still a huge adjustment for everyone.
    41 days ago
  • GGRSPARK
    He probably is a little lost without his usual clinic days. It’s a shame you have to contend with his moods, but it’s only been a month.
    41 days ago
  • no profile photo SHARONCAPPS
    Retirement for some is not easy. Hope he settles in but at his age he probably never will. LOL.
    41 days ago
  • I_CHOOSE
    Himself doesn't know how to be retired after all the decades of work. Love having him with you as best you can because someday he won't be there.
    41 days ago
  • REVMAN1971
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    41 days ago
  • CARD512002

    It is going to be hot this weekend, in the low 90's and muggy. emoticon

    Have a great weekend. It is a holiday weekend for us.

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    41 days ago
  • PLCHAPPELL
    3 months in here
    41 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    I feel your pain! I hope Himself stops being a "him-a-cane" soon!
    41 days ago
  • LIS193
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    41 days ago
  • MSMOSTIMPROVED
    It’s only been a month. Bless his heart he’s still getting his retirement sea legs. Good luck!
    41 days ago
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    41 days ago
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