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just sayin’ … lookin' for support team

Monday, October 26, 2020

Winter has hit the Rockies. It snowed allllll day yesterday and will continue into today.

Thank goodness … I have my trusty treadmill to get in my walks. Yep, me and Tina (Turner) will be singing and walking later today.

We need to get back to our home improvement list. Just like losing weight … it’s something we started and need to complete.

More from Steve #65:

Fat people silently suffer the consequences of failure.
Fit people build a team to help them succeed.

It’s not easy being fat. In fact, it sucks. Fat people suffer in many ways, and much of the suffering is done alone. Being fat is a private failure you share with the public. It’s the first thing people notice when you meet.

Habit change may be simple, but it’s certainly not easy. Assemble a mentor and support team to guide and encourage you along your journey.

Critical Thinking Question: Do you have a support team in place to help you through the tough times a habit change???

Action Step: Contact three of your closest friends and family members today and ask them to be on your support team.

Sparkers are my support team. Skinny Hubby is always in my corner … but doesn’t understand the effort needed to lose weight or to change habits that don’t serve you. He has … no bad habits … just ask him. 😊

BFF and others around me are not trying to change their behaviors. They complain … but they don’t change.

I blogged about this before … but the more I talk about “changing” my thoughts and behaviors to change my weight … the fewer Sparkers respond.

So, this does feel like a “lone” process.

But I got myself into this “fluff”. I have to get me back out.

Change your mind … and the rest WILL follow.

Coz … I want to be ME.

**Within this blog is my longwinded thoughts based on my reading and humble understanding of Steve Siebold’s Die Fat or Get Tough and years and years and years of searching for thinness and … self-peace.
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  • SPICY23
    It sounds like you were having a down day when you wrote this. Most of us have them from time to time, feeling discouraged and alone. I count myself as one of your supporters, erratic as I may be in checking in here. I completely agree with you that the key to approaching any of our goals begins with changing our minds, thinking, and attitude. You are not alone there. Open to greater dialog if you want it.

    Peace and Care
    36 days ago
    I'm back, still thinking about your statement on Sparkers shying away from your "real" thoughts and behaviors.

    Perhaps you tweak a nerve that hits someone about themselves. Some people struggle no matter how much they post "it's ok".
    Failure is personal.

    My DD1 was studying music (sang opera, contemporary, theater) and practiced at home. One time she asked me how a song sounded after she'd been at it for a while. I told her beautiful except for a particular spot where she'd fall a bit flat. She burst into tears and had a rant about how I made her feel awful, she'll never be good, on and on! Whew!
    She didn't want my constructive criticism. She wanted my praise; I wasn't supposed to be honest.

    Kinda like that? Do some not respond because praise instead of honesty in our "fat" world is less messy? Am I going to be friends with someone who says "Dang, girl, you ate how many cookies? You need to get a grip. What's up?" or someone who says "I understand why you ate those cookies, it's OK, we all fall down sometimes." I'm struggling here...hope you get my point.
    36 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/27/2020 10:15:51 AM
    I do not like this sentence in the blog:

    "Being fat is a private failure you share with the public."

    It isn't failure. And many love their bodies and have no issue weighing more.

    And last I knew I was not on parade with my weight with a sign on my head "Diet Failure Here" with an arrow pointing down.

    Was that in this book?

    My husband is skinny and fit and has a LOT of failures and "bad" habits.
    36 days ago
    Great blog. I do agree that outside of Spark, most people, even those that care about us, don't want to hear about it as often as we need to talk about it. People that have the discipline to change their habits, don't understand those of us that can't seem to find the consistency needed and why binge eating or food addiction is always a struggle. Only other Sparkers seem to understand the constant "first days" and are here to celebrate even the smallest accomplishments with us. I can't even imagine trying to go the weight loss journey alone without Spark support -- without it, I'd have died on the vine a long time ago. Keep on keepin' on as they say. You are so worth this. "Never, never, never give up." emoticon
    36 days ago
    There is no "I" in team.
    There is an "I" in weight gain and diet.

    The individual who has gained the weight on their own looks for support for something they did to themselves.

    Just my brain leaking when it's time to go to bed. I need to ponder this more.

    36 days ago
    I know we can't see each other but just know that you not are not alone! emoticon ... I've always hot your back!
    37 days ago
    I love this. Thanks for sharing.
    37 days ago
    "Sparkers are my support team"
    Absolutely! Mine too!
    37 days ago
    37 days ago
    'tis quality, not quantity, of support that matters, don't you think?

    emoticon We can do this, girlfriend! emoticon
    37 days ago
    Oh I hear you! I have a great support team . . . sparkers, friends, DH. Every one of these supports helps in a different way, which is good.

    HUGS and you are NOT alone! Right with you.
    37 days ago
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