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My Adventures in Spark Land...Learned that I have rethought my life.

Tuesday, October 27, 2020

"To live a creative life we must lose our fear of being wrong".

Yesterday on the TV show 'Home and Family', Monica Burg who wrote the book 'Rethink Love' was on. She of course talked about her book which is rethinking our values this and how we view love, She explains that in her book she about our value system. Why do we value .... Is it because our parents did? Is it because our church taught us to? Do we believe that value? Same with love. She talked about her marriage. How she learned in her family how to deal with conflict different then her husband and how they had to together figure out how to handle conflict in a way that works for them. I hope I explain that right.

Actually what she said was not new for me. I grew up in a Baptist church. My mom grew up in a Baptists church so church was very important to her. Looking back, when her parent's died, she grasp onto the ladies in the church and their believe system. I went off to a Lutheran College. After being there for 2 years, it was very hard for me to attend a strict Bible College. Then I went off to work at a city 3-4 hours away. When my son was born, it was very hard for me to come back to my parent's world. My married brother a few months back said they were always right and everyone else was always wrong. To live under that was very hard. When they died, I had to rethink everything just like that author said. Someone explained to me the other day that living up to what others what you to be is a cause of anxiety and stress. I am still at times questioning myself am I doing this because it is right for me or it is because that is what my parents taught me is right. LOL of course this virus has had us all rethinking a lot of things!

When I saw that quote this morning, it made me think of what Monica Burg said.

Happy Black Cat Day!!!

One area of my life I re-evaluated is my whimsical fun side. I've learned it's who I am and not being immature.

emoticon Last night I watched the Halloween movie: "Can of Worms". !/2 way through it, I realized I had see it. It was listed under Disney Halloween movies. I am unsure which Halloween movie I will pick to watch tonight.

emoticon Today to celebrate Halloween I listened to Spooky Walk. It is a Halloween version of going on a bear hunt! I find it kind of fun to do something daily to celebrate Halloween/October/Autumn. Here's the link:


emoticon I also find it kind of fun to watch a Disney movie every day. I watched Ever After Cinderella Story. I had seen it before. I find this movie long and boring.

emoticon 20/20 is a year that each person has to choose how to look at it. You may look at it as a 'Dumpster Fire Year' or a year of changes. The choice is yours. I found a list of things to do during this quarantine. #72 research something you've always wanted. I did that in April/May. I researched each president of the USA via YouTube. I took a president a day. I learned a lot!

emoticon What made my smile yesterday? Last night I watched from Lifetime the movie 'Forever Christmas'. The main male lead celebrates Christmas year round. I loved seeing inside this man's home. You walk in and there is huge wrapped boxes hanging whimsically from the ceiling. That made me smile. Then they show a Christmas train. He is not allowed to have his outdoor Christmas stuff up year around so the camera shows his Christmas stuff in his garage and as he puts it up! It all made me smile. I grew up with a mom that didn't like us to do anything Christmas related until after Thanksgiving. I got into college and found out that wasn't the case for everyone! I'm watching Christmas movies now before Halloween. I'm glad mom isn't here to yell at me. Last few years I've decorated mid-November. It was fun to have more time to enjoy Christmas. But I don't share that with anyone in my family because they would yell at me also.

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    34 days ago
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    34 days ago
    I always love how much you have learned about yourself and how positive you are about learning things during quarantine time. Each of my siblings have followed a different church. I think so many people inherit their faith, rather than choosing it. There is nothing wrong if that is where they are comfortable, but it still needs to be a choice imho.
    34 days ago
    Good for you for appreciating your whimsical side!
    34 days ago
    It's good that NOW you are doing things as YOU see fit and not worrying what others think. My parents were good people, but we didn't always see eye-to-eye on things, which was all right. . . as I got older. As I got older they allowed me to do my own thinking. That was fortunate.

    HUGS and glad the movie made you smile!
    34 days ago
    after we leave our parents we make our beliefs we keep the ones we like and start new traditions emoticon
    34 days ago
    I grew up in a Southern Baptist Church. Lots of good memories in that church and still have friends from my childhood church. At first I think our beliefs our based on our families beliefs then as we grow up we form our own opinions . Personally I don't think none of the different denominations have it 100% right. Today I just consider myself a Christian . In the past 20 years I have attended numinous denominations from Church of God to Catholic with lots in-between. I focus on what beliefs we share and it has been educational to step outside my comfort zone. Now I would call my self non denominational.

    Your and My life have been different yet with common threads. In my 30's a book I found most helpful was called "Pulling your own strings".

    Your using the word re-think , made me think of a word I often have used which is re-raise . Our parents raised us as best they knew how which may not of been best for us so I think many of us has had to re-raise our self. God Bless and guide you. Polly
    34 days ago
    I liked "Forever Christmas".
    You should be able to decorate whenever you want without anybody getting mad. It's your house. I've had 3 black cats but they are all gone now.

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    34 days ago
    There is always a choice about how to look at any situation. The pandemic has definitely taken its toll on thousands of people and the families.

    It's wonderful that you can now celebrate Christmas as early as you want. Everyone has different ideas about what works for them. In my opinion, it's none of your family's business when you decorate. It's your home.

    It felt like Christmas here yesterday, as it snowed the entire day. We still have snow today, but it is finally above freezing and is beginning to melt.

    Stay safe. Be well. emoticon
    34 days ago
  • LINDA!
    My parents were also very religious. I did rebel when I was young. However, I follow the same religion, as does my husband, that we shared while growing up. It has been a strong thread in our relationship. We have a black cat. Love them!!
    34 days ago
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