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just sayin’ … why, oh why ???

Sunday, January 24, 2021



Some recycled pounds off … I’m 216.4 this morning. I’m still up from two weeks ago but I’m on track for 1 pound a week loss. Now to keep going … one meal at a time. And 5x a week walking.

Today is a little sad for me. This is the last entry from Steve Siebold’s book … Die Fat or Get Tough: 101 Differences in Thinking Between Fat People and Fit People. I have found Steve firm, to the point and very supportive of those who are ready to lose weight. He has no patience for wishy-washy thinking. His last page of the book is about how many think he is a jerk … but he is being tough on purpose. The first 30 days of any change, it is very important to stick to the rules so that new habits can take hold. And then re-enforcement of your new beliefs.

Just yesterday, a newish friend asked me some tough questions and then quickly apologized. She said that she didn’t want to offend me. I told her … honesty is what makes a great friend so valued. And if you do what you have always done expecting a different outcome … you are setting yourself up for failure. Why would a good friend enable you to do that???

More exerts from Steve #101:

Fat people focus on the how.
Fit people focus on the why.

Fat thinkers imagine the life they desire and often quit before they start because they don’t know how to make it a reality. This leads them to believe they have to know how to do something in order to make it happen.

Fit thinkers know to ask for help if they don’t understand HOW to do something, and go to work on figuring out WHY they should expend the effort.

Fit people are searching for the emotional motivators that will keep them 100% complaint and moving forward when it gets tough. Whatever the motivation, fit people know the secret is identifying what drives you and keeping it in front of you as much as possible.

Emotional motivation is the power tool of the world class thinker.

Your job is to develop a big enough reason WHY to battle the bulge and win the weight loss war.

Critical Thinking Question: Are you aware that it’s your emotional motivators that will determine your success or failure to get fit???

Action Step: Make a list of your five most powerful emotional motivators for getting fit and read them every morning. Stay connected to this list like a scuba diver does to oxygen. If you’re emotional motivation is unclear when the going gets tough, your diet is in danger. Stay focused on why you must get fit and remind yourself every day as if you have no short term memory. And always remember … YOU can do it !!!

My whys. This list is kinda like a Last Will and Testament that would be found … it supersedes any that have come before.

WHY do I want to embark on this road to … changing??? I mean Hubby doesn’t care if I’m fluffy … so WHY do I ???

1. I want to be at peace with myself. I want to trust myself.
2. I want to be at peace with food. I want to enjoy every bite of food I chose to eat.
3. I want off the roller coaster of losing, gaining, losing, gaining.
4. I want one set of clothing that fits every time I reach for something. I want to purchase things that fit at the time of purchase and into the future.
5. I want to feel like ME in my own skin. To be able to exhale ... and breathe !!!

Fate whispers to the warrior, "you cannot withstand the storm."
And the warrior whispers back, "I am the storm."
(borrowed from LIBELULITA)

Just do it … already. No matter what.

*******
Change your mind … and the rest WILL follow.

**Within this blog is my longwinded thoughts based on my reading and humble understanding of Steve Siebold’s Die Fat or Get Tough and years and years and years of searching for thinness and … self-peace
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  • RUTHIEBEAR
    I love your WHy Do I list! I may use a version of my own. emoticon
    38 days ago
  • LIBELULITA
    Seems Steve Siebold is your very own "TOUGH LOVE" guy! Has he written more books? Glad you love the warrior in the storm quote....it's one of my favorites emoticon
    38 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    I absolutely agree with you that although Steve Siebold comes across "in your face" he truly is very caring. He wants people to succeed -- at weight loss and in every area of their lives where they apply "mental toughness" (which I have come to think of as "mental compassion"!!

    I like your list of "whys". They are all powerfully motivating.

    But: that wanting to be a peace with myself and trusting myself is definitely number one for me. And it's not something that comes AFTER (weight loss, etc.) but for me, it comes FIRST. Then everything else falls into place. Why would I feed myself yucky junk food when I'm trusting myself to take the best care of myself?


    39 days ago
  • MEADSBAY
    If it was easy we would all be thin ...did u teach me that?
    Sounds like you are doing so many of the right things...don’t expect perfection.
    Trust the process (another hard thing to do).
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    39 days ago
  • C-SMILE
    "Why" not start posting from the beginning?

    "Why" do you blog? I hope because blogging helps YOU!
    emoticon
    My Spark Friend!

    Our minds are complex. Willpower isn't enough. Determination is what matters!

    What is your goal or goals?
    What will you do to reach your goal(s)?
    39 days ago
  • OHMEMEME
    Oh! I’m kinda disappointed too! I enjoyed your Seibold refresher!
    Perhaps a redo someday that will help see progress from this round... From your blogs I notice some changes in my thinking from my first read and some excerpts I’d totally forgotten to consider.
    Thanks for Sparking!
    Best wishes!
    39 days ago
  • OVERWORKEDJANET
    And if you do what you have always done expecting a different outcome … you are setting yourself up for failure.

    Yep.
    39 days ago
  • JOHNMARTINMILES
    Awright!

    Make today the greatest day of your life
    Until tomorrow!

    "I am rare, and there is value in all rarity; therefore, I am valuable."
    Og Mandino
    39 days ago
  • ONEKIDSMOM
    1. I want to be able to do what I need or want to do... even at my age.
    2. I want my knees to not hurt.
    3. I want my ankles to not hurt.
    4. I want my back to not hurt.
    5. I want "life" to be "easier" as it is when I'm near / at the weight my body naturally goes to when I eat well.

    Now, I wonder why so many of my motivators are avoidance of pain? 3 of 5?


    39 days ago
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