reasons and excuses, a thought processing
Saturday, April 30, 2011
People cite either reasons or excuses
for their negative issues and even outcomes of efforts.
Actually, sometimes no reason OR excuse is necessary.
Sometimes a fact is just a fact...and we deal with the fact.
But the human condition seems to want a reason, true or not, so reasons and excuses come into play when life isn't perfect.
In my life, I aim for reasons and then solutions.
Excuses are things I'd LIKE to avoid, and know they can be a tempting lure.
Knowing the difference between a reason and an excuse is IMPORTANT.
Part of self-awareness in fact.
When we have a firmly understanding of our reasons and have limited the use of excuse, we can handle problems or changes or even daily life with more ease.
Getting from that place where excuses fill our list of hurdles to where our hurdles are true reasons with which to contend can be a journey in itself. Frankly, the 'excuses' could be easier than the 'reasons' are. Because a reason is often a pretty big hurdle when discussing issues here where lifestyle change is the common denominator for discussion. 'Excuses' just sort of float out there, and since they're not really matters of any substance, we can only deal with them in one way (to realize them for what they are). But reasons? Ah, reasons are indeed hurdles, obstacles, or things with which we must learn to live. Anyone still with me?
Excuses do not change facts.
What matters is that we do our best to be realistic, to know ourselves whether we are slacking off or whether we understand we are doing the best we can.
And as we do that, we realize we look more at reasons for obstacles than at excuses for results.