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And it Continues...

Friday, May 06, 2011

OK.... So... After the seizure of this weekend from my 15 year old son and the new dynamic from my 18 year old daughter, my husband and I both are just wiped out. We are so very tired of going through stress.... Stress! Stress! Stress!

And so... The GREAT thing is that we are getting along no matter what. We're communicating and giving each other space when we need the space. In fact, last week, after a particularly difficult conversation with our newly unmarried, senior in high school and pregnant 18 year old, my husband said I could not make any more snide comments. (They would just leak out periodically...) And so... I took that opportunity to let him know I just could not stay and NOT make snide comments. I was just so shocked and frustrated about the situation........

My dear husband booked a hotel room for me!! And truthfully, I felt loved!! I felt like he wasn't judgmental at all of how I should feel and was just wanting me to "be nice" to my daughter. I think he helped me to recover and to get back on my feet. I truly do.

We are both unable to turn off our thoughts regarding the information about the pregnancy. I have been through seizures with my son, NICU with my daughter, life flight with my other daughter and my husband having a heart attack and emergency triple bypass. On this one, I am simply unable to turn off my concerns.

I am praying and praying and praying. I am focused on taking care of myself and taking care of the family as much as I can. I just wish I could turn off the "what's going to happen" thoughts! --We have been through so much!

We go to counseling next Tuesday and so.... we're trying to hang in and work on what we can work on in the mean time....

Oh, boy!

Thanks for listening!
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  • KENDRACARROLL
    That is, indeed, another major stressful situation for you.
    emoticon , my friend.
    Honestly, I don't know what I would do in a situation like this. I probably couldn't help some snide remarks myself, even though I agree, they are not helpful.
    Be thankful that you and your husband are on the same page and support each other. That's more than many can say.
    Hang in there.
    3701 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/6/2011 10:50:47 AM
  • REDDIRTRUNNER
    Oh wow! Sounds like all you can do now is pray and remind yourself that He will not give you more than you can handle. You most be one STRONG woman! emoticon its wonderful that your husband is supporting you in that way. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. emoticon
    3702 days ago
  • FITMARY
    It is so wonderful that DH has your back. As for your daughter, well, I'm pretty sure I'd have a few snide comments myself initially too. Grrrr! And Grrrr!!!
    But.... you will get through this and so will she. If only....... But instead of "if only," you have to deal with reality. Get the "if only's" out in private, and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. And remember, your body doesn't know the difference between a real smile and a smile you've just willed yourself to have (and many teenagers don't either). Hang in there!
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    3702 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5128667
    Sorry you're having such a tough time of it - and with Mother's Day coming up, of all things.....

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    3702 days ago
  • MARVEEME
    My prayers are with you, and I add to those prayers the sincere hope that the therapist you are seeing is faith based. If not officially, than at least at a level within reach of the Holy Spirit. If you have any doubt about this, I suggest you incorporate such an advisor into the mix. If you insist on a group prayer to start your next session, you will have better focus on your directions on these issues. Your husband is a wise and thoughtful man, evident by his unconventional but realistically supportive resolve to the immediate crisis. Let him lead you this time, and give the rest to God. He's up all night anyway.
    3702 days ago
  • DOROTHYBERO
    I kbnow how it feels to think that your plate is already full woth so much stress. And luckily I was blessed to get 4 daughters through school with no pregnacies. But honestly - I have seen people in your situation that are so upset to find out that there daughter is pegnat but I can tell you that when that baaby comes - everything changes over the overwhelming love. So the only advice I can give you is to be there for her and support her and try not to be to hurtful ( I know - I am terrible with snide remakrs as well) and it will all work out. Best of luck to you and your family and I iwll keep you in my prayers. Kuddos to a wonderful hubby!!
    3702 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/6/2011 5:52:56 AM
  • VYVIENN
    Goodness, you certainly have more than your share of trials and tribulations in your life! It may be little consolation right now, but evidence is in that no momentum, good or bad, can continue forever, so... eventually, this will pass. You WILL have your life back, your family back and not have to worry about where you will live in three months. And, knowing my fellow Sparkers, we WILL be here for you until this happens. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3702 days ago
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