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Thursday, May 19, 2011

My relationship with my father wasn’t always “fatherly.” At times it was adversarial, and as an adult there were times of NO contact. Yet, I still had a need for fatherly guidance. During the course of my life I have been privileged enough to have some extraordinary men who would step in and fill those shoes. My relationship did mend with my father, but I don’t think that would have been possible without the love and guidance of the men who fathered me in his absence.

While my mother and I have had our ups and downs, it was far more stable than the relationship than the one with my father. However, has I’ve gotten older my relationship with her has only gotten better. She’s a wise woman and her guidance has been in valuable in the last several years. I’ve also been privileged to have some extraordinary women in my life who have nurtured me in many, many ways.

Today, I recognize I still have a need for parenting, or mentoring. But it’s very different today as grown woman. What I need today, is an older, wiser person to demonstrate to me how to handle the next stage(s) of my life. I look to them for guidance and wisdom to negotiate the pitfalls of life, and how to celebrate the success of each stage. I need a guide to show me the way to gracefully and peacefully accept and celebrate my life.

I know half of what I used to know in my twenties, but what I know now is FAR more valuable. I cherish each person who’s had hand in molding me into the woman I am today. I have had mentors young and old, male and female, some living, some dead; all of them have left an imprint on my soul. But it is the older ones who’ve had far greater impact on my life. What a gift!
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    Kudos, darlin'. "When we know better, we do better!" The fact that you keep your mind and heart open to learn says volumes about you, Alesia.
    XO Hugs and best wishes for your today and your tomorrows.
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    3653 days ago
    My mother always told me life begins at 40 and now I know why... we have learned so much and see things in a much clearer fashion... Cheers to the next stages of our lives!
    3686 days ago
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