Reaching out for support
Tuesday, August 09, 2011
This weekend I’m unexpectedly going to Los Angles. My favorite aunt, Martha, has cancer. Her prognosis is very grave and we expect her to be put on hospice any day now. So I’m traveling to the City of Angles to say my “goodbyes.” And while I’ve had many loved ones die of cancer, it’s never any easier. Each loss has its own unique difficulties. This will be an especially hard trip. You see, Martha is my mother’s sister. My mom will be flying to down a few days ahead of me. In addition to my own sorrow about losing my aunt, I’m deeply concerned about my mom’s physical and emotional well-being. My mother is still recovering from hip replacement surgery from early June, and she still hasn’t been able to return home just yet. It is evident that the emotional strain of the past few months is taking a toll on my mom. It’s my goal to support my mom in whatever way possible.
My heart goes out to my uncle Joe, and my cousin Jason, as I have been in the shoes they are standing it right now, when my father died of cancer in October 2006. I spoke to my cousin yesterday, and heard so many familiar words I have spoken myself. It’s been a very long haul for them, and I know they the grief weighs on both of them.
So, several members of my family will be converging at my Aunt and Uncles this weekend. It’s my fondest hope that we can be helpful and not cause them any more distress. However, I’m wise enough to know, in times like this emotions run high, and people often aren’t always on their best behavior. My family is no exception. My family has never been a “Leave it to Beaver” family; we have been more of “Jerry Springer” episode. That is to say, that there is a few people in my family who aren’t so tightly wrapped.
I pray I have the grace and the strength to face the days and weeks ahead, and that I can be of service to my loved ones, while I honor my own grief. Not an easy task. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers.