Monday, January 09, 2012
My Dear Mom passed away peacefully on Christmas Eve. She had entered the final stages of dementia and had lost her remaining functions throughout the last couple of months of 2011. She received wonderful nursing care and we were in the position to be able to spend much of her last weeks and days by her side.
My Mom was a courageous lady, who battled her illness for as long as she could and whose 90 years were a testament to a determined and caring life.
My Mom kept her body fit and her mind active for as long as she had the mental capacity to do so. Until she needed secure residential care for her own safety, Mom walked two miles every day and kept her weight constant at 130 lbs by sticking to a healthy, vitamin-rich diet. She inherited the family tendency to diabetes, high blood pressure and glaucoma but managed these conditions sensibly.
Her daughter, Yes - yours truly, has not had her Mom's self-discipline but the mantle of responsibility now rests on her shoulders.
I am now 'the matriarch' - the oldest person in my family. If I intend to have 30 more full and productive years to achieve just some of the standards of being a caring Mother, Aunt, Grandmother etc that my Mom attained, I need to set my house in order; grow a sense of personal responsibility and become the best person I can be physically and mentally.
That process starts today.