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Thursday, July 10, 2014

Don't click this for inspiration. I guess I just needed to vent.
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  • no profile photo CD15866935
    2052 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel. This whole thing can be overwhelming and the very reason I hesitate to start is fearing the setback of failing again. All you have is right now this very moment and sometimes it's all you can do is do the most you can for this moment. Don't worry about tomorrow or next year. Just focus on the moment. That is what I am working on emoticon
    2526 days ago
    We've all been there, sister! Some of us are there right now. A couple of pieces of advice:
    1) It may have been hyperbole, but hours of exercising probably aren't the answer. Trust me, I've done it.

    2) If a focus on weight loss is stressing you out, you probably need to refocus elsewhere. Personally, I take the scale a lot less seriously if I weigh every day, but I know that for a lot of people, less is more.

    Or better yet, find something else, like how easy is it for you to get off a chair? Do you have to lean way over and put your hands on your knees and stick your butt way up in the air and then straighten up slowly? Or do you just have to do the rock and push? Or maybe just a little rock? How would you like to be able to just straighten you legs and BE up? It's awesome. I remember it. Or even better, being able to spring up with a little skip. Isn't that an exciting thought?

    See? Just finding something else to focus on can take a whole lot of pressure off of that big, nasty scale or even that pair of slightly tight jeans.

    Hope this helps!


    2529 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/15/2014 9:26:41 PM
    I'm SO with you on this. Everyone is different and has their own challenges though. It's good to vent. Sometimes I get so frustrated with lack of progress. It feels like I have to workout forever and starve myself to get results like on Biggest loser or something.
    I ended up overtraining last month and got pretty sick from it. It forced me to slow down and my weight loss slowed to practically nothing. You don't have to bust yourself to get results but have the patience to expect slow and steady. I had to learn to accept that. Sometimes I'll lose .2 ounces or 1/2 a pound a week instead of 3 lbs like I used too but I'm ok with that if I'm not busting myself.
    I love to vent and rant in my blogs too, it's normal and sparkpeople is great for that. I swear, if it weren't for sparkpeople I probably would have given up months ago!
    Hang in there, the results come! It just takes patience. We're here for you cheering you on!!
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    2533 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14731147
    typical feelings for a typical frustration....
    you said it "fed up"

    I can promise you that I would never work out as if it's my second occupation nor nearly fast for meals... you've got diet rage

    I get diet rage from time to time (the key phrase to diet rage is "fed up" specifically) find out more about it, you're in good company.
    2533 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/11/2014 11:42:42 AM
    Don't feel like you have to be positive and upbeat all of the time! You deserve to vent!

    I am sorry you're feeling this way. I was feeling super frustrated with a several-year plateau at one weight, and then a six-month plateau once I'd managed to get 30 pounds off of that weight... I am FINALLY starting to head downward again and into the healthy range for my height.

    I don't know if you are really looking for advice here, but here goes:
    Looking at your food trackers, when you ARE tracking, it seems like you're eating a decent number of calories, but a HUGE number of those are coming from processed foods. The added sugars, salt, and low-nutritional-value carbs in processed foods aren't going to do you any favors being able to lose... see if you can find the time to start making some of your own foods from fresh, instead. (It takes literally three minutes to scramble eggs and make a piece of toast like Ezekeil which has more "good stuff" for you than a bagel or a SmartOnes sandwich).

    You also talk about "five hours of cardio" and I wonder if you're focusing too much on long, steady-state cardio instead of strength and strength + interval training. If you really want to lose weight, lift heavy, and sprint now and then on your walks.

    If you want a really, really good review of the science behind why diets don't work, and what actually does, read Good Calories, Bad Calories by Gary Taubes. It's a little dense, but SO informative.

    emoticon And you don't have to KILL yourself.

    p.s. Is your ultimate goal really to be "thin"? Because thin isn't necessarily healthy (or beautiful... most people agree that some curves and meat on the bone is MUCH more attractive!) ... A healthier goal would be to be fit, to increase your potential for longevity and decrease your potential for disease... to be able to enjoy all of the little things in life that being heavy can make difficult or prevent... to feel secure and happy in your own skin... emoticon
    2533 days ago
    ...one day at a time.... patience grasshopper.....
    2533 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2704340
    You are not alone. Hang in there and never give up. You're worth the effort!
    2533 days ago
  • JEEP14
    Good Morning..
    first of all Hugs..
    I hope your day is better today.. I get into those days when I just say..
    Forget it.. not working.. and boy I have one of those bodies that HOLD that fat!!! And I cry and go on a brat attack for a few days and realize I just ate another pound on ... by not trying..
    I look back thou and remember. I have lost weight and I can.. It's just a entire life change..
    My husband likes to keep me on the fatter side.. My hormones like to keep me fat, my mind likes to keep me fat.. So each day I try to keep going..Working against the world for what I want!

    Come talk with us... Keep your water.. going..
    Trying writing down everything you do for a week, and check the scale and measuring tape..
    Talk to others that the scale has moved for..
    I have faith in you.. unless you have some sort of medical condition the weight will come off.. Even folks with medical conditions find the right combination and the weight will come off!!!
    Keep motivated!!! Keep smiling..

    2533 days ago
    First of all you are beautiful. Even though you want to lose weight, don't let that define who you are. That being said.
    You didn't put it on fast, don't think it is coming off fast.
    Drink WATER...lots of it. START your day w/a very big glass full. drink 1/2 your body weight in oz of water. I know that is a lot of water, and yes you will be spending time in the bathroom. Get over it. haha
    Most of the time our body is telling us it is thirsty and we give it food. :(
    Make sure you eat breakfast and every 3 hours. Watch your portion size. Your stomach has been stretched but it should only be the size of your fist. So don't eat more than that.
    TONS of vegetables. Less fruit, most people eat lots of fruit and less vegetables. turn that around. Yes, fruit is good for you.....but it is still sugar. good sugar, but sugar none the less.
    STAY CLEAR OF: Fast foods, processed foods, crap snack foods. I don't care if it is 3 calories......don't eat it. NOT even a tic tack. :)
    Eating this little bit of sugar triggers your taste buds, making you want more....the more sweet you eat the more you want. Eat something sour.... dill pickle at the end of the meal works wonders.
    2533 days ago
    I fully agree with RAMONA: Eating less and moving more just does not work for everybody. You might be one of them. I have never been heavy, but always slightly overweight. Since I started eating differently all together, I managed to loose those sticky 15pounds. I don't know what will work for you or what you are eating (or used to eat) but for me 2-3 things are very important: eat always more than 1600 calories - eat mostly veggies and lean protein - no simple carbohydrates and no refined sugar - prepare my meals myself-no ready to eat foods anymore.
    Go off the beaten paths, experiment for yourself and feel what feels good from the inside.
    Good luck and don't give up!
    2534 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel. Im in the same boat. I have been eating a lot less than I used to. I am just lucky to stay at the same weight without gaining. I have always worked 2 jobs and thru the years gained alot of weight. I know some had to do with quick fast foods back then. But now that Im not working I still can't loose. I am on thyroid meds and that still doesn't help. I'v been on them for 6 years. Its just not fair that some can keep their weight down from their high school years while a few of us are twice the weight we were back then. Only way I found is to not have anything with sugar at all. Which is so hard to do. Just fruit, veggies and lean meats. I did loose 27 lbs over a year and a 1/2 since I joined Sparkpeople. But this year I haven't lost at all. But Im still going to hang in there. Try the foods I mentioned, drink lots of water. And try to stay away from processed foods. See if that helps some. And lots of will power. We can do it.

    2534 days ago
    Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

    2534 days ago
    I am so sorry your journey is weighing so heavily on you at this point! I eliminated fat VERY slowly, and I can identify with your frustration! I'm also glad you are being real.. it may not change anything in the moment, but it gives others the opportunity to let you know you're not alone.

    With your history (family and weight loss), I suspect that you are one of those people for whom 'eat less, move more' will never work. I, too, am one of those people. My journey here at SparkPeople has not been typical (conventional wisdom doesn't work for me), but I have learned and awful lot about eliminating fat when hormones are not cooperative.

    For me the answer had been 'heal the metabolism and the weight will follow' (while I'm not yet at goal weight, I end each year here lighter than the last)... which has meant eating more of the right foods (I am NEVER hungry), and actually moving less, but more efficiently (I never exercise more than 20 minutes a day). Take a gander through my blog. Maybe something will help (relevant links are at the bottom of my most recent blog post). I also have resource links in the comments sections for most pictures in my photo gallery. Sparkmail me if you have questions. I am happy to help.

    May today and every day bring to you a ridiculous abundance of whatever you need. May you find peace within and all around you. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith and desire... a desire which even itself issues from God. May all your concerns, struggles, anxieties and fears fall like ashes as you rise on eagle's wings, SOARING above all that would hinder you along this tremendous adventure of being and becoming all you are created to be. May you answer your call and use those gifts that you have received to pass on the love that has been given to you. May the presence of God settle into your bones and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love beyond your wildest imagination. May you be overwhelmed by the grace of God as it simply "overtakes" you moment by moment... rather than being overwhelmed by the cares of life!

    {{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}
    2534 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/10/2014 6:42:00 PM
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