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Friday, October 23, 2020

There is such beauty in aging. Maybe not physical beauty, although certainly there are people who age staying physically beautiful. I think that the beauty MUST shift, from what looked pretty on the outside to what looks pretty on the inside. In that transition? THAT is where the truest beauty awaits to be revealed. A beautiful heart is so much more important to own, to cultivate, than a beautiful face or a beautiful body. That's what I believe now, anyway, lol.

My mom, who is 83, occasionally quotes Bette Davis, "old age ain't no place for sissies". I agree. I think it's a rare person who experiences aging without also experiencing a subtle grief, a loss for what once was. I remember my own dad showing me his hands, showing me the age spots and saying, redundantly, "whose hands are these?". I really got it. The passage of time inspires grief.

By the same token, as I have aged, I have learned to finally have peace from many of the broken pieces of my life. I have made peace with my food because I learned and came to terms with what I needed to let go, what I needed to forgive, what I needed to “go through” as opposed to “get over”. My advice? Don’t try to “get over” something. Get in the trenches with it. Expect it to hurt... because it will. As my heart changed, everything about me, did. It has been nothing short of a miracle. And of course, I have a long way to go. But what I was able to overcome by age 60 simply couldn’t have happened one moment sooner. We are only ready when we are ready, and that applies, I feel, to weight loss too. So.. it's never too late.

The below touched my heart today, I hope you will enjoy it too. Let us strive to make each new day a day of more acceptance, toward self and others. It’s where true freedom lies.

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    Oh you are singing my song. It's so true - we aren't going to "get in the trenches and deal with it" till we are ready - and then, suddenly - it's so much easier. We learn patience in cooking - and I like to use that metaphor - things aren't done till they've had the time they need to "cook".

    The greatest beauty is seen through the love in our own hearts.

    And, sweetie - thank you for the bloglove on my latest portrait post. Big hugs
    194 days ago
    What a wonderful blog -- and at 69 myself, you can bet I relate. And that I was not ready to deal with my own weight issues until I was ready . . . .
    195 days ago
    Good morning, dear friend, and thank you for the precious words. Showers of blessings to you this new season. emoticon
    198 days ago
    Beautiful blog - so full of wisdom. As I have watched my children grow, I realize that their young enthusiasm and energy was mine also at that age. Now, I sit back and absorb all the joys and adventures that I missed when I was young and not paying attention. Getting older is like the necklace. Without the broken pieces, there would be no beautiful contrasts.
    200 days ago
  • LINDA!
    A beautiful blog. I always enjoy them. emoticon
    202 days ago
  • SHELLS514
    Very wonderfully written Sue. Love the poem at the end.
    203 days ago
    What a beautiful and very touching blog! I am just past 74 now----still can vividly remember when i was young and being a teenager. The things we thought important then---getting that eyeliner on just so---lol ... and trying to never gain an ounce! Now i smile looking back, cause it all went so fast. And i do not think anyone would remember the perfect eyeliner or how the pencil skirt and sweater looked. I once said to someone not long ago ...... I would rather have the furrowed brow of Mother Teresa---one with a heart of gold, and hands worn from tirelessly giving to those suffering ..... than have a face free of lines and looking like i did when i was 25. There may have been some lines on her face, but i always saw the beautiful heart within. People like that--have meant so much for those in need--a life well lived. I enjoyed all you had to say in this blog..... emoticon
    204 days ago
    What a deep and thoughtful blog emoticon
    204 days ago
    Hello there sweetie

    I hear you so loud and clear! Have you noticed, too, how beautiful everyone you love is? i'm glad to think we also learn to love ourselves as we age.

    wishing you so much goodness
    204 days ago
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  • -RUBIES-
    I get it. And... I agree, sometimes we simply need to accept the fact that we need go through the trenches instead of desperately trying to find a way to bypass it. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
    204 days ago
    Beautifully written blog!
    205 days ago
  • _BABE_
    Your blogs are always so timely! I have a birthday coming up in the next month and a lot of what you say is sounding true. Thinking about time lost is just that....a waste of time. Have you ever seen trainwithjoan? I suggest you look her up on youtube or instagram. Her motto is you can't turn back the clock but you can sure wind it up again!

    205 days ago
    I thought you weren't blogging anymore cause I wasn't getting a notice. So, I'm thankful you dropped in on me otherwise I wouldn't have checked your blog. It was simply beautiful. Written using that beauty from within that it's truly shinning out.🥰
    205 days ago
  • TZAPP22
    So beautiful! Thank you for sharing!

    205 days ago
    Lovely blog. Thanks for sharing that passage with us
    205 days ago
    What a beautiful blog, Sue, full of wisdom and grace. I've been thinking a lot about age lately, whereas up until about five years ago, I never, ever cared how old I was. As far as I can remember, it just didn't matter. So the poem you included was very comforting, and I will hold it in mind as I revisit episodes in my past and try to see jewels instead of broken pieces. Your words always remind me of how we are meant to treasure this life and love ourselves as much as we love those around us, as much as we love our children.
    205 days ago
    Our perspective and values change with time. The Bette Davis quote reminded me of something my dear aunt said, "The golden years are a bit tarnished." The last 15 years have been a time of incredible and life-changing losses. As I move into a new decade next year, I shall leave behind the regrets for how quickly the years have passed and just celebrate reaching such a grand age! Each year is a precious gift.
    205 days ago
    Aging has been a great adventure for me. Almost all of my old beaus have passed on so I am blessed to still be here.
    205 days ago
    This is one amazing blog entry. Thank you so much for every word!
    205 days ago
    Great blog my friend
    206 days ago
    The most beautiful person I know lost her physical beauty when she was badly burnt when she was 9. In that fire, she lost all her siblings and her mother. In spite of that she was a kind and loving person.
    206 days ago
    great blog a beautiful heart is a treasure Hugs
    206 days ago
    Thank you for sharing the poem, and your thoughts, today. ♥️
    206 days ago
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    206 days ago
    Thank you so much for sharing 'The Necklace'. Your blog was beautifully written.
    206 days ago
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    206 days ago
    OH my goodness. YES! The beauty inside is what shines through outside anyhow . . . not the physical beauty.

    Definitely, the best part of aging is the wisdom. Couldn’t pay me enough to go back in time and have to learn all these lessons again! I am grateful to have learned them and now . . . move forward!

    You are so right! WE have to get in the trenches w/our feelings, and I the we are able and willing to do that more as we age. And that’s all right!

    Thank you for sharing that beautiful piece, The Necklace.

    (((HUGS))) oh wise one! Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

    206 days ago
    Bravo!!!! Great blog. Next month, 71 and yes, Bette Davis was right. Always evolve.
    206 days ago
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