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Same as last round, Here's what I want and what I usually get, so life is good.

I don't really want active support, I feel like this is a personal journey, and not that visible as I am in reasonable shape and close to my goal weight.
I don't want disrespect for my nutrition choices or ridicule, I welcome objective discussion if anyone is interested in what I am doing and why.


June -- Pacific Time Zone
Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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I'm not doing this one. I only did this one - shared my list with my best friend. She was surprised by what I'd written, but then proceeded to carry on just as before! She ALWAYS makes some comment about my size or asks about my weight. I fob her off now with 'I'm about the same'

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Day 9, 6/21/2020
What I want from you...

If you see me eating something that's not on my plan... give me a hug.

When I'm making progress at losing weight... give me non-food gifts or rewards.

When I'm struggling or gaining weight... ask me how you can help.

When I'm making progress you cant see (such as improving self-esteem)... ask me how I'm doing.

When I've maintained my weight... tell me you're proud.

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Day # 9 of 100 Hereís What I Want

1. If you see me eating something not on my food plan.....ignore it completely!

2. When you see me making progress such as losing weight.....compliment me on how I look.
At this point I am able to reward myself, no gifts necessary.

3. If you notice Iím struggling, itís usually because of physical problems Iím dealing with at the time. If you can help say so.

4. When I'm making progress you can't see (i.e. improving self-esteem).....just ignore it.
When I'm working on myself, it really is all about me, not anything against you!

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So glad that I went out of my comfort zone and cautiously talked to DH about these last two lessons way back when because now he better understands (and so do I) what I need. He is much more supportive and helpful. It's now up to me to do what needs to be done.

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Day 9 Here's What I Want

I want to be as healthy as I possibly can be...that is my ultimate goal.

I want clarity(my word of the year for 2019) on how to reach that goal. I'm still working on that but I have figured out how I need to eat and I'm trying to get some exercise every day. Can't manage more than 15 or 20 minutes at a whack though yet.

I want to be consistently resolute (2020's word of the year). Lack of consistency has brought me down innumerable times.

So continuing to be clear in my goals and planning and being resolute in working my plan will hopefully get me to that "healthy as possible" point.

I want active support only when I ask for it or obviously need it. Mal does the vacuuming, laundry, and most heavy cleaning now. I cook, fold clothes, and dust...thank goodness there is not much tidying to do; no teenagers in the house anymore. I don't have to ask for help with housekeeping but sometimes I do ask him to stick with store-bought cookies instead of stopping at the bakery for lovely gooey stuff and I am asking him tonight to remind me to stay out of the kitchen in the evening.

The only thing I've asked of other family members is not to expect dessert when they come for dinner and not to order dessert when we are out. It was hard for me to ask that years ago but they agreed immediately and I know they often stop for ice cream after they leave us.

The only sweet things we keep around here for the grandchildren are sugar free popsicles (which I love and can have) or Mal's store-bought cookies (which I can resist easily).



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Day 9 - Here's what I want

Don't let the need to feel better ( soothe feelings with food) become stronger than wanting to lose weight.


I don't really want active support, I feel like this is a personal journey, and not that visible as I am in reasonable shape and close to my goal weight.
I don't want disrespect for my nutrition choices or ridicule, I welcome objective discussion if anyone is interested in what I am doing and why.

I am supported in that DH is fine with my grocery choices and my elimination of my trigger foods. Most of which he is not interested in anyway.

I notice a lot that it is the DHs who eat unhealthy snack food with impunity, they mostly are not obese. They want their snack food. DH likes ice cream. He eats cookies and other baked goodies if they are around, but doesn't buy them himself and doesn't miss them if they are not in the house.

That reminds me of a joke.

An elderly couple were killed in an accident and found themselves being given a tour of heaven by Saint Peter. "Here is your oceanside condo, over there are the tennis courts, swimming pool, and two golf courses. If you need any refreshments, just stop by any of the many bars located throughout the area."

"Heck, Gloria," the old man hissed when Saint Peter walked off, "we could have been here ten years ago if you hadn't heard about all that stupid oat bran, wheat germ, and low-fat diets!"

June -- Pacific Time Zone
Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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Oh Sue! You're living in a minefield of food hazards! Good luck with that! Gosh, it's hard, isn't it? So hard to 'reject' other people's offers of food. Can you take your own maybe?

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DAY #9 HERE'S WHAT I WANT

I want people to eat healthy when they are around me.
I want people to not offer me unhealthy foods.
I want people to respect my wishes/requests.

We are returning to "in-person" Garden Club meetings next month. We will be meeting in a Park. We have been requested to bring a lawn chair, our own beverage, and to wear a mask. Our "hostesses" will provide pastries. When I sent my RSVP I asked if bagels might be considered as an offering. I know they aren't all created healthy, but they have got to be more so than sugar-loaded pastries. Time will tell if anyone honors my request.

A friend invited DH & I to their home tomorrow. We had been talking about picnics and how Subway sandwiches are easy to pack for the occasion which prompted her to offer us Subways
for dinner. I said thanks but no thanks and she was good with that. I wanted to eat at home so that I would know exactly what my calorie intake would be.

I guess that telling people what we want/need really isn't all that hard sometimes.

I can't figure out which video clip I like better. They are BOTH soooooo funny! Thanks, Maribeth. We all need a bit of laughter in our lives.

Edited by: FUNLOVEN at: 6/11/2020 (13:20)
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emoticon The chip scene is Very Funny, Kristen Bell in "The Good Place"
on Netflix season 1 E12. I'm having fun today emoticon emoticon In one swipe she got all the chips that I would buy a long time ago. DH buys a lot of bananas and he wore a gorilla suit for Halloween Haunted House in college.

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Hereís what I want
1. If you see me eating ďnot my foodĒ be kind and offer to pray with me
2. When I am making progress compliment me
3. When I am struggling be loving and encouraging
4. When I am making unseen progress encourage me to keep doing my program of BLE
5. When I am maintaining remind me that I am healthier than I was in the past
Hmm Not sure where to post this

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Oh, Maribeth - I'm helpless with laughter - where DO you find these? OMG - that's hilarious!



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Day 9 Here's what I want
DH loves grocery shopping, works great, reduces my struggle with food choices. I'll shop for fresh greens and move quickly through the store to limit contact. I'm so happy there are no more food samples. If hungry while shopping --- drink water in my car and wait till I get home.
DH buys bananas emoticon and sugary fruit that I don't eat. Then he takes fruit and nuts to his office. I want to find more ways to avoid temptations.



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1. If I see myself eating something that's not on my diet plan
- ask myself - does it taste so delicious that you are willing to sacrifice your goals?

2. When I'm making progress, such as losing weight
- I'll give myself a hearty mental pat on the back, add a little self-talk, and remind myself that the reward is good health, more energy, and the ability to actively participate in my life!

3. When I'm struggling, or gaining weight
- ask myself what worked before and am I still protecting my program.

4. When I'm making progress I can't see ( such as improving my self-esteem)
- consider whether I feel physically and mentally better, whether my clothes are fitting better, and whether I am still protecting my program. If I am, then I know that my body will start reflecting that.

5. When I've maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
- Continue to protect my program even though I might eat a few more calories if I don't want to lose anymore weight. Remind myself how easy it would be to let all those pounds return and applaud the hard work it took to get to goal or to a maintenance point!

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8/16/19 12:07 A

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From myself, I want

1. If I am eating something thatís not on my diet plan
ē Ask myself, ďShould you be eating that?Ē


2. When Iím making progress, such as losing weight
ē Give myself non-food gifts or rewards

3. When Iím struggling or gaining weight
ē Ask myself what would help me and what do I need to change direction

4. When Iím making progress you canít see (such as improving my self-esteem)
ē Give myself non-food gifts or rewards

5. When Iíve maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
- Enjoy that I am alive and finding graitude in being blessed with having opportunities to try a new day.

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8/15/19 6:49 P

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Yes, ignore was pretty much my answers down the quiz. I might step out and tell him that he can compliment me, but honestly, I prefer to have my weight issue be my gig. I forgot to say that in the spring, I was meeting weekly with a friend to pray specifically about our weight loss efforts, and only that. It helped me to get rolling, but we both got busy starting in May, so we have not done that in awhile. The weekly update gave a time and place for encouragement.

Loved reading all of your responses. Yesterday I was thinking that I should reward myself when I get to the end of the month for success with staying on plan. I'm using the Dot Calendar, recording weight, calories, exercise and a green, yellow or red dot based on how the day went. I am geared up to reward myself when I lose the next 10 pounds, but I think consistency for a month deserves recognition.

Loved how you sparkfriends asked these questions of yourself. Much more helpful to me also.

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Let me learn from my mistakes, accept that I may diet one day and screw up royally the next, don't do anything special, but don't be a food pusher. And if you can tell I've lost some weight, you can say so, but don't ever lie. That's about it.

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Day 9 - Here's what I want

From my family, because I have tried for many years, they are not convinced this time is the charm, so I don't ask for active support from them.

From my family, I want mostly no comment or positive or curious comments or questions.
From my Spark team, I enjoy the structure of the 100 day challenge and the ideas from the other travellers on this journey and my giving back would be sharing my ideas

From myself, I want

1. If I am eating something thatís not on my diet plan
ē Ask myself, ďShould you be eating that?Ē


2. When Iím making progress, such as losing weight
ē Give myself non-food gifts or rewards

3. When Iím struggling or gaining weight
ē Ask myself what would help me and what do I need to change direction

4. When Iím making progress you canít see (such as improving my self-esteem)
ē Give myself non-food gifts or rewards

5. When Iíve maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
- Enjoy that I am holding the fort, which is a victory in itself


Edited by: JUNEPA at: 8/15/2019 (16:11)
June -- Pacific Time Zone
Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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8/15/19 10:32 A

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I'm thankful for these lessons and that I stepped out of my comfort zone and cautiously talked to DH about how he could help me meet my goals. My feelings and irritability of the unfairness that he could eat whatever, whenever caused tension, a butting of heads and I got nowhere. Now he better understands (and so do I) what I need. I try to remember to thank and compliment him and to use humor to reinforce what I need. He continues to be much more supportive and helpful. Turns out he is an awesome veggie chopper which is so helpful with my veggie heavy meal plans. emoticon

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These are mainly for my DH......although he's been "trained" already....LOL.

If I'm eating something not on my plan, I already know it's not on my plan -- and being reminded of that fact is not going to make me all of a sudden decide not to eat it. It might make me want to eat it even more. The discipline of forgoing a treat has to come from within myself.

I'm always happy to receive a compliment. I'd prefer it to be private rather than in front of others.

When I'm struggling or gaining weight, I'd prefer you ignore it entirely. Since I'm pretty much in maintenance right now, there really isn't a lot of "progress" to comment on. I do appreciate being appreciated for preparing healthy meals and for staying diligent to my exercise everyday plan. I appreciate that you praise my efforts to stay fit.



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These two days are hard Because I donít have much support from my husband

Matthew 11:28 Come unto me all ye that are heavy laden and I will give you rest unto your soul.


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DAY #9 HERE'S WHAT I WANT

I feel like my thoughts about yesterday's lesson (Help me, please . . .) were rather scattered. My DH is my closest support and this morning I thought - How can I ask him to help me when he can't even help his own poor eating behaviors?! Guess that just goes to show that it really is -

ALL UP TO ME!

So once again I have mixed feelings about this assignment. I'm going to use some of Gill's answers -

1. If I see myself eating something that's not on my diet plan
- ask myself "do you really want to be eating that?" or "are you really hungry?"

2. When I'm making progress, such as losing weight
- give myself a non-food gift; I said I would by a new workout outfit when I reached my current weight and I haven't done that yet. Time to reward myself!

3. When I'm struggling, or gaining weight
- ask myself what I can do to get going in the right direction again, make sure I keep my daily schedule light and stress-free, and plan some nurturing activities for myself.

4. When I'm making progress I can't see ( such as improving my self-esteem)
- give myself a pat on the back

5. When I've maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
- tell myself how proud I am of my achievement and trust the process.



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8/15/19 7:31 A

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Day # 9 Hereís What I Want

What I want from you... (hubby)
1. If you see me eating something not on my food plan.....ignore it completely!

2. When you see me making progress such as losing weight.....compliment me on how I look.
At this point I am able to reward myself when I achieve a new goal so gifts arenít necessary.

3. When I'm struggling or gaining weight........ignore it or hug me and show extra affection.
Itís usually because of physical problems Iím dealing with at the time.

4. When I'm making progress you can't see (i.e. improving self-esteem).....just ignore it.
When I'm working on myself, it really is all about me, not anything against you!

5. When I've maintained my weight (even if I may still want to lose more)........compliment me on my efforts and occasionally tell me you are proud of me.


Edited by: MAWMAW101 at: 8/15/2019 (07:33)
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Same as before!

I am directing my answers to myself!

1. If I see myself eating something that's not on my diet plan
- ask myself "do you really want to be eating that?"

2. When I'm making progress, such as losing weight
- give myself a non-food gift, like something nice to wear

3. When I'm struggling, or gaining weight
- ask myself what I can do to help myself

4. When I'm making progress I can't see ( such as improving my self-esteem)
- give myself a pat on the back

5. When I've maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
- tell myself how proud I am of my achievement

Ah, that feels good!
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Day 9 Here's what I want...
fitness emoticon instead of food and a body like Heidi Klum emoticon
1. When Iím making progress ē Share an activity (non-food rewards)
2. When Iím struggling ē We can discuss problems and solutions (share list)
3. I no longer want what other people are eating!
4. If you see me eating something thatís not on plan
~ ~ ~ ē Help clear kitchen of unplanned food.

Progress: we are sharing health goals. DH is athletic and needs more calories and carbs. I will not eat his food emoticon stay on target with goals. emoticon emoticon
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My WW leader does exactly that. Asks me what is happening or what one or two things can I do in the next week that will help me get (or stay) on track. Constructive guidance is what we need, not judgement.

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I don't have much support at home from family members. I get my support from my TOPS pals. It's a support group for weight loss where we have a lesson every week and discussion where we talk about our progress and our setbacks and everyone understands because we're all in the same boat.

I feel defensive if someone makes a snarky comment when Iím eating something I shouldnít be eating. I already know that, I donít need someone to tell me. It would be much nicer if they asked if Iíve had a bad day, or whatís wrong.

Getting a compliment when someone notices Iíve lost some weight is the best reward. It makes me feel like Iíve really accomplished something and Iím making progress.

If I gain weight it would be nice to have someone ask how they can help or ask if I have been frustrated or discouraged lately and just lend a listening ear.
It would be nice to have someone ask occasionally how Iím doing with my weight loss efforts.


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Day 9 - Here's What I Want

I still agree with what I said last time.

If you see me eating something that is not on my diet plan please ask if it is on my plan
However I actually CAN have anything as long as I have the Syns remaining and write it down!

When I am making progress, such as losing weight, getting back in shape they have been told please do compliment me on how I look. Compliments on how I am maintaining are also Very welcome! emoticon

When I am struggling or gaining weight I love my hubbies support that I can get it back as I have done it before and can do it again! I would like him to keep his 'treats and temptations' to himself though!


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Here's what I want

Just sayin'...I love all these lists but we should each take Gill's list and internalize it! We need to treat ourselves kindly and give ourselves positive messages. When we do that we will be so much less bothered by criticism real or perceived from others.

I love compliments too! Who doesn't, especially when they come from people that we love.

Please notice my efforts.
Please ignore my poor choices unless it seems like I have given up - then remind me privately of the work I have done.
Please, please, please....don't criticize me in front of others.

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Day #9 Here's What I Want

My answers haven't changed much, but I can see that now I have a better understanding of myself and a more positive attitude.

So this is what I want:

1. If you see me eating something that is not on my plan PLEASE don't hesitate to give me a reminder about what you see me doing wrong - quietly and in private; not blurted out in front of other people.

2. When I'm making progress with my weight loss PLEASE don't hesitate to let me know that you have noticed the improvement - I love compliments! They are a great reinforcer and motivator for me to see that my efforts are paying off.

3. When I'm struggling PLEASE don't hesitate to ask what you can do to help me - this battle is up to me to win, but just the fact that you cared enough to notice me will be a huge help!

4. When I'm making progress you can't see (such as improving my self-esteem), PLEASE don't hesitate to ask me how I am doing - I am in a much better place emotionally than I was a year ago, but again, knowing that you care enough about me to notice/ask will mean a lot!

5. When I've maintained my weight and other good health habits PLEASE don't hesitate to tell me how proud you are of my accomplishments and continued efforts as this will encourage and motivate me to keep going until I reach my goal. Everyone could use a good cheerleader. A weight-loss journey takes a lot of effort and energy, both mentally and physically, and sometimes I just need a little break.

Now if I could only find some people in my life who would be willing to do this for me!


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Again -- I mainly just want what I eat to be ignored! If DH sees me getting a late night snack I'd just as soon not hear "Getting a little something, are we?" emoticon He's usually getting a "little something" as well. emoticon
When I'm making progress, emoticon don't mention it in front of others!
When I've gained a few - IGNORE it! emoticon
When I've improved my self esteem, it doesn't need to be noted verbally, but always feel free to give me a compliment on looking good!
When I've maintained my weight there is no need to comment. -- Not trying to be bristly or defensive, but sometimes I hear the UNspoken part of comments or specific compliments about my progress. What I'm hearing that's not being said is that I was unacceptable before, and now the person giving the compliment is keeping a close eye on me to see if I can maintain my success.

The bottom line is that whatever I'm doing is for myself - my health and the way I feel about myself...not for the approval of others. I'm my own best cheerleader and if need be - disciplinarian. emoticon emoticon

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I am directing my answers to myself!

1. If I see myself eating something that's not on my diet plan
- ask myself "do you really want to be eating that?"

2. When I'm making progress, such as losing weight
- give myself a non-food gift, like something nice to wear

3. When I'm struggling, or gaining weight
- ask myself what I can do to help myself

4. When I'm making progress I can't see ( such as improving my self-esteem)
- give myself a pat on the back

5. When I've maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
- tell myself how proud I am of my achievement

Ah, that feels good!
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After going for years and not sharing what I want and what I'm working towards, I find that I was not doing myself any favors - total opposite. My family knows -

1. Want to eat healthy foods, make healthy choices.
2. Push myself to exercise more and more
3. Not to judge or criticize me
4. Make positive, encouraging comments

Life is so much better. I could have accomplished a lot years ago if I had just spoken up!! But I will not dwell on what was but what is and what can be.

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The only one I struggle with on this is my partner and he is not open to change much ,

Others in my life that I tell about my program are really good about being supportive, I am fortunate there. I appreciate encouragement and tips on the journey.

I pray for my partner, its about the only thing I know to do, he just doesn't realize he is not helping and hurting my program and yet is unhappy about my weight.



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Here's what I want - Activity instead of food!
I'd rather go for a walk then out to lunch.
Minnesota winters are brutal...during 2015, I gained. This winter I planned ahead and reduced pounds! *New Year (May 2017) hot tub and saunas are healthy alternatives to comfort food.

I don't want... people to keep offering food, after I say, ďNo thanks, Iím not hungry or I already ate.Ē I can smile and change the subject. The plus side of living in Minnesota... we can always talk about the weather.
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100 Days Challenge, Day 9 Here's what I need...

1. If you see me eating something thatís not on my diet plan
ē Ignore the subject entirely
2. When Iím making progress, such as losing weight
ē Compliment me on how I look
ē Never comment on my progress in front of others
ē Give me non-food gifts or rewards
3. When Iím struggling or gaining weight
ē Hug me and show me extra affection
ē Ask me how you can help
4. When Iím making progress you canít see (such as improving my self-esteem)
ē Compliment me on how I look
5. When Iíve maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
ē Tell me you are proud of my current efforts
ē Compliment me on my looks and my efforts

Hubby was receptive and agreeable with my requests.

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When all else fails, persistence prevails.

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I am at a point in my life that I do NOT want any attention drawn to what I am or are not doing.

I am in charge of ME.
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Day 9 - Here's What I Want

I still agree with what I said last time. The personal chef sounds nice, tho my dh has made me some delicious meals lately but I've still had to make meals for 3 others! ūüėČ

If you see me eating something that is not on my diet plan:
As I said before my dh will ask if it is on my plan and I try to thank him.
However I actually CAN have anything as long as I have the Syns remaining and write it down!

If you see me eating a LOT of it though, he and my kids should ask if I need any help or offer me a hug if needed.

When I am making progress, such as losing weight, getting back in shape they have been told please do compliment me on how I look. Compliments on how I am maintaining are also Very welcome! emoticon

When I am struggling or gaining weight I love my hubbies support that I can get it back as I have done it before and can do it again!

However it's ok if you don't notice at all. I am doing this for ME after all.

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Reading back through these answers, I note two important entries: 1. Gill comments that people start dropping out on this day because we start getting into working on emotions, and 2. DJBTOO comments on how ďcalorie denseĒ emotions are. I agree with DBJTOO.

My responses agree with so many of you, including that these are the self-loving responses I want from myself!

1. If you see me eating something thatís not on my diet plan - Ignore it. Not your problem.

2. When Iím making progress, such as losing weight -Compliment me on how I look.

3. When Iím struggling or gaining weight - ignore it unless I mention it, then you can ask me how you can help.

4. When Iím making progress you canít see (such as improving my self-esteem) - compliment me on the changes you notice in my demeanor or interactions, not just on how I look.

5. When Iíve maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more) - Compliment me on my looks and my efforts.



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Day 9, Here's what I want...

Well after I win the personal chef lottery, at least!!

Right now I want my health and weight/food issues to be mostly ignored. I told my friends and family that long ago because I really feel that I am so much more than my appearance or eating habits.

Now, I do pretty well in both areas and my weight doesn't vary much any more but I really would like to lose more, however, I don't need anyone commenting on the fact that I haven't made progress for awhile OR discussing my eating or weight or health over lunch. NO WAY!

If they can't think of something else to talk about, maybe we shouldn't be eating together!

Please ignore what I eat, what I weigh and if I'm exercising....SparkPeople is taking care of that discussion...completely!

Tell me what you've been doing, how your job is going, what fun things have happened lately, the weather, your plans for the future, short or long term, your kids, your pets, your grands, etc. I'll talk to you about the same kinds of things. Let's just enjoy being together whether that happens every day or on occasion. I'll do the same for you!! AND let's hold down the gossip...let's just don't go there!

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a personal chef....nice! emoticon ....although I do enjoy cooking and creating meals for myself and DH. Now that it's just the two of us, I've got it just about as easy as possible. He strives to eat a healthy diet as well, so there are really no temptations around at his request. He's put on some weight the past few years, but it's mainly the late night snacking and coffee liqueur he drinks copious amounts of every evening around 10 p.m. or so...or at least that's my opinion. But I don't say anything. I figure he's old enough to know what he wants to do, and he returns the favor. I'm kind of an under-the-radar personality with my weight loss efforts. About 10 years ago when I actually lost a noticeable amount of weight in a 6 month period, I was so grateful to those friends who didn't comment. It made me extremely uncomfortable the few times someone who hadn't seen me in awhile made a huge public spectacle over the 25 lb difference. One day before a Y class a fellow member who'd been away awhile loudly congratulated me and said I looked so much better -- and how much had I lost? -- and how had I done it? and on and on. By that time everyone in the room was paying attention. I know she thought she was being supportive, but how it made me feel was that I must have looked terrible before. I'm sure she wouldn't have commented if the situation was just the opposite. If I had gained 25 pounds, I'm sure she wouldn't have come in with "Wow, you must have gained a ton! What the heck have you been doing with yourself to let your appearance slide so drastically?" emoticon

On the quiz in the book, most of my answers were that I would prefer to be ignored. And that's how I feel. It's personal. I know if I'm eating something not on my plan and having someone remind me does absolutely no good whatsoever. I know when I feel good in my clothes and don't need someone to tell me it looks like I've dropped a few pounds.

On the other hand, I never mind it when someone gives a general compliment such as "You're looking good today!"

I DO enjoy sharing and discussing with SP friends, though. emoticon emoticon



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emoticon Iíd love a chef too!

Day # 9 Hereís What I Want
What I want from you...
1. If you see me eating something not on my food plan.....ignore it completely!

2. When you see me making progress such as losing weight.....compliment me on how I look. At this point I am able to reward myself when I achieve a new goal so gifts arenít necessary.

3. When I'm struggling or gaining weight........ignore it or hug me and show extra affection if you know why it's happening.

4. When I'm making progress you can't see (i.e. improving self-esteem).....just ignore it.
When I'm working on myself, it really is all about me, not anything against you!

5. When I've maintained my weight (even if I may still want to lose more)........compliment me on my efforts and occasionally tell me you are proud of me.


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emoticon C and Sue with your posts. Put me on that list for a personal chef too. emoticon I go through spells where I am so tired of planning and preparing healthy meals.

Anyhow, so glad that I went out of my comfort zone and cautiously talked to DH about these last two lessons way back then because now he better understands (and so do I) what I need. He continues to be much more supportive and helpful.

He unintentionally tempts me with leftover ice cream and other things after dinner while watching TV. Now he does not take it personally, understands my grumpiness (it's not fair that he can eat that way and I can't) emoticon He understands better why I need to watch less TV.


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O.K. I'll be first today emoticon

Thanks for the support. It was a surprise, but much appreciated. For me it felt like the snuggly blanket that Linda talked about in her recent blog when she recommends self-care by cuddling up and giving yourself a break when you have an emotional cold.

I feel better today and will be back in the center of my path. Day 9 - What do I want?

Have you ever told someone you wish you could have a personal chef to do all the planning, prep, cooking, and clean-up for you? I wish that is what I could have. I can't help but think it would make life so much less stressful!

The other thing I wish for sometimes is someone to hold my hand 24/7 through the entire journey and every time I start to stray towards the edge they could pull me back to center!

I will never have either of those things (and DH talked me into buttered popcorn last night emoticon ) so I will have to look for some other motivator.



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I have the same thoughts as last time!

I am not going to read the answers to this quiz to people in my life. I love when people notice when I have lost weight and give me a compliment, but I don't have to tell anyone to do that. I get all the support that I need here on SP, so in "real life" all I want from my family and friends is to love me for who I am, regardless of my weight.


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100DWL DAY 9 HERE'S WHAT I WANT....

WHAT I WANT FROM YOU..
1) if you see me eating something that's not on my diet plan........IGNORE IT ENTIREL

2)when I'm making progress, such as losing weight........COMPLIMENT ME ON HOW I LOOK.

3)when I'm struggling or gaining weight......ASK ME HOW YOU CAN HELP

4)when I'm making progress you can't see( such as improving my self esteem)............ASK ME HOW MY EFFORTS ARE GOING

5)when I've maintained my weight.(even though I may still want to lose more).......TELL ME YOU ARE PROUD OF MY CURRENT EFFORT


WAKE UP HAPPY, SPREAD THAT HAPPINESS AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR WORLD......ME


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Day 9 - Here's What I Want

I also am keeping with most of what I said last time around but have borrowed ideas from some of my friends on the 100 DWL team.

If you see me eating something that is not on my diet plan:
As I said before my dh will ask if it is on my plan and I try to thank him.
However I actually CAN have anything as long as I have the Syns remaining and write it down!

If you see me eating a LOT of it though, he and my kids should ask if I need any help or offer me a hug if needed.

When I am making progress, such as losing weight, getting back in shape they have been told please do compliment me on how I look. Compliments on how I am maintaining are also Very welcome!

When I am struggling or gaining weight I love my hubbies support that I can get it back as I have done it before and can do it again!

However it's ok if you don't notice at all. I am doing this for ME after all. emoticon



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1. If you see me eating something that's not on my plan - ignore it completely (you don't know my plan)

2. When I am making progress, such as losing weight - compliment me on how I look. I quite enjoy being complimented these days, and am happy to say "thank you!"

3. When I am struggling or gaining weight - ignore it entirely.

4. When I am making progress you can't see (such as improving my self-esteem) - compliment me. I have been working on my strength and fitness and quite enjoy people noticing!

5. When I've maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more) - compliment me.
I am now quite comfortable explaining how much effort it takes to maintain, eg when people say "it's alright for you...." Or "you are good!"

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Day 9~Here's what I need. I have pasted and copied a previous post since my answers are about the same. I now struggle with how to best support family and friends who are working towards a healthier and more fit lifestyle~especially family because I worry about their health but I don't want to add to their struggles or to become the "reformed health police".

I continue to look for the place where I can share but not preach. I mostly say nothing unless someone asks or encourage them when I feel that I can. All of your shared insights have helped me to see how different our needs are. Once again I am truly shocked when I read this and remember just how hard this was for me to do at all when I first started the 100 Days. These lessons have changed me for the better. emoticon



Aug., 2015 ~ Looking back I was surprised at just how hard it was for me to do this lesson the first time. I did not want to do it at all. I wrote about how difficult it was for me to share with anyone Especially when not doing well or challenged. I was so tired of being irritable at not being able to eat what I want, when I want...for Soo long. I am so glad I did it because each attempt has given me insight into my behavior and myself- all hard to put into words.

One surprise is I've always thought I have a pretty thick skin and that I have fairly good self esteem. When I look at my answers (they are all ignore or hug), I realize that I am more sensitive than I realized even to the point of not wanting to be complimented in front of others unless they were as thin or thinner than me. Part of the reason being I know how hard it is. This seems to apply only in my weight. In other areas, I seem to want and need praise. Hmm.

Anyway, So glad that I went out of my comfort zone and cautiously talked to DH about these last two lessons way back then because now he better understands (and so do I) what I need. He is so much more supportive and helpful.



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Hmmm ... I have been at the losing weight journey for eons and have run the gammit of what I need. Hubby and my body got very confused by allll this. So now, I am in charge of ME. What I need:

Though I have been eating gluten, soy, dairy and sugar free since February ... no foods are BAD or off limits, I make my own choices ... so comments are not welcome.

I need foods on hand at all times that I want to chose from. No exceptions.

Exercise has been an issue for me lately. Join me but more importantly ... stay out of my way when I have my body and mind in the same place at the same time.

I am at a point in my life that I do NOT want any attention drawn to what I am or are not doing. I have noticed that after peeling off 100 pounds ... gives ya a lot of power!!!
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1 - If you see me eating something that is not on my diet plan - Ignore it entirely. I might have planned for it I don't need food police.

2 - When I am making progress - a compliment would be nice.

3 - When I am struggling or gaining weight - Ignore it or just give some extra affection. I will already be scolding myself. I don't need help with that. I need to know you care.

4 - When I am making progress in non-weight issues - you can tell me you notice - give positive support. It never hurts.

5 - When I am maintaining a weight level (or hit a plateau) - Ignore it. It will happen and if I keep healthy habits, the plateau will break.

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First, thanks Gill on leading me through the Report thread. And, Wanda, on the info for the No S Diet. I will check into both of these further.

I fell behind a couple days due to schedule overload! Feels good to be back here with all of you. So this is what I want:

1. If you see me eating something that is not on my plan PLEASE don't hesitate to give me a reminder about what you see me doing wrong.

2. When I'm making progress with my weight loss PLEASE don't hesitate to let me know that you have noticed the improvement.

3. When I'm struggling PLEASE don't hesitate to ask what you can do to help me.

4. I have been working very hard on my "self" this year to find balance in my life physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. PLEASE don't hesitate to ask me how I am doing in these areas of my life, point out any positive changes you may have noticed in me, or what you can do to help me.

5. When I've maintained my weight and other good health habits PLEASE don't hesitate to tell me how proud you are of my accomplishments and continued efforts.

Now if I could only find some people in my life who would be willing to do this for me!

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1. If I see myself eating something that's not on my diet - ask myself "is it worth it?Ē ďam I really hungry?Ē if Iím not really hungry then ask myself if there is something else I can do that would meet my needs Ė like go for a brisk walk for energy, drink a hot cup of tea for comfort, have a chat with a coworker for company or alleviate boredom, look for something to learn for intellectual stimulation.

If YOU see me eating something not on my diet - let it go unless I am making a habit of it. If you see me doing this often Ė call me out on it.

2. When I'm making progress, such as losing weight Ė celebrate by plotting it on my chart & have a little party in my head.

When YOU see that Iím making progress Ė tell me that you notice and understand that it did not come easy

3. When I'm struggling or gaining weight - ask myself how I can turn things around. Start small. Just going for a walk a few days a week could be enough to turn my motivation.

When YOU see me gaining weight Ė tell me Ė call me out. Donít police me and donít nag. Donít disparage my character or integrity. Be understanding about not leaving temptations lying around where I will get to it.

4. When I'm making progress I can't see Ė reflect on how far I've come.

When YOU see me making progress I canít seeÖ.huhÖnot going to happen. So, no need to do anything.

5. When I've maintained my weight (even thought I may still want to lose more) - compliment myself on my looks and my efforts and remind myself how worthwhile it is. Enjoy my clothes
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When YOU see that I am maintaining my weight. Appreciate the effort that it takes.


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If you see me eathing something not on my diet plan, do not criticize me. Ask "Would you like to try this?' "IF" you are eating something healthier. Otherwise, ignore it.

When I'm making progress, such as losing weight, please acknowledge that progress. Every little thing helps and encourages.

When I'm struggling or gaining weight, encourage me. Ask me to go for a walk or say "Can I help you at all?"

When I'm making progress you can't see, complement me on what you do see and ask "how's it going? Are you feeling better?"

When I have maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more) encourage me to look at my progress and compliment me on how far I have come.


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MAWMAW101's Photo MAWMAW101 Posts: 15,216
11/14/17 7:24 A

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Day # 9 Hereís What I Want
What I want from you...
1. If you see me eating something not on my food plan.....ignore it completely!
To question my choices never works for me, I just get defensive.

2. When you see me making progress such as losing weight.....compliment me on how I look. At this point I am able to reward myself when I achieve a new goal so gifts arenít necessary.

3. When I'm struggling or gaining weight........ignore it or hug me and show extra affection if you know why it's happening.
Most times if Iím struggling itís because I'm sick so extra attention would be nice.

4. When I'm making progress you can't see (i.e. improving self-esteem).....just ignore it.
When I'm working on myself, it really is all about me, not anything against you!

5. When I've maintained my weight (even if I may still want to lose more)........compliment me on my efforts and occasionally tell me you are proud of me.
Most people notice how active I am and how happy I am which is nice.




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11/14/17 6:03 A

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I am keeping with what I said last time around:

Day 9 - Here's What I Want

emoticon If you see me eating something that is not on my diet plan:
Say Nothing, because on my plan I actually CAN have anything as long as I have the points available and eat a reasonable portion of it.

If you see me eating a LOT of it though, feel free to ask how my day is going and offer me a hug if needed.

emoticon When I am making progress, such as losing weight:

Compliment me on how I look.

emoticon When I am struggling or gaining weight:

Tell me you noticed, care about me and ask how you can help. Offer me a hug.

emoticon When I am making progress you can't see (such as improving my self-esteem):

it's ok if you don't notice at all. I am doing this for ME after all.

emoticon When I have maintained my weight even though I might want to lose more:

Tell me you are proud of my efforts.

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As I look over these answers I realize that many of these are now "I can handle it on my own" instead of "I need HELP". I think this shows the growth through going through these lessons multiple times.

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7/10/17 8:22 A

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1 If you see me eathing something not on my diet plan - give me a hug
2 When I'm making progress, such as losing weight - complement me on my hard work
3 when I'm struggling or gaining weight - give me a hug and care about my struggle
4 When I'm making progress you can't see - complement me and show interest in how it's going
5 When I have maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more) - encourage me to look at my progress and compliment me on how far I have come.


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7/9/17 2:46 P

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I may print this out....

If you see me eating something not on my plan, point it out tactfully. I will know I'm doing it, but being accountable may limit the amount and stop me repeating it.

Please also support me by considering what you offer.

When you see me making progress, let's celebrate in a non-food related way.

When I'm struggling....it's a hug...every time!

Encourage me to hang on in there and remind me how far I've come in support of a healthy life-style.


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Willing on the 'Wonderful Watermelons'.

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7/9/17 11:07 A

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My dh does tell me how proud he is of my current efforts, all the weight I have lost and maintained. He always encourages me and reminds me if I have had a slip that I can get it back and have done it before! This can be reassuring at times! emoticon




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